Step by step guide to solve a problem using your intuition

I came across Christie Marie Sheldon through MindValley, which is a company that I discovered a couple of years ago that focuses on personal growth and offers courses, masterclasses and books from the best authors in personal development in the world. Christie Marie Sheldon is an intuitive healer and energetic coach which is not something that you would come across on a daily basis and it is one of those persons that can read your aura. If you have ever read about chakras and your chi energy or your aura then, that’s what she does. She can see it. She knows everything about you in an instant. I have experienced this with one of our Romanians energetic coaches and finding more information and insights from around the world, makes the initial learning far more precious and demonstrates once again, that we are more than this physical body. We are energy.

step by step guide to solve a problem using your intuition

So, intuition is something we all have but we do not use it or we do not really rely on it as much as we should. If you have ever had the feeling that you should be doing something or not be doing something, and you did not follow that internal guide, and later on, you realised that your initial thoughts were correct and you should have or should have not followed a specific pattern, then, hello You, that was your intuition and that’s how you know that it is something you do have and it does work. It’s not esoteric. It’s a fact.

Christie Marie Sheldon is a gifted intuitive life coach and author. She is Mindvalley’s #1 bestselling and most viral author, celebrated for her uncanny ability to access people’s energy fields, erase their inner blocks, and raise their vibrations towards their fullest potential.

step by step guide to solve a problem using your intuition

I had encountered a specific tool to help us use our intuition to solve a problem we feel we have. This is something she created and her guide is very simple. First and foremost, you have to understand the

ABC – Always be connected to the Light.

The light is everything you believe in, whether is a guru, the universe, God, the divine, etc. It is the LIGHT. By being connected to the light, we understand that we are part of the Light, that Light is guiding us and that we are in connection with it. We feel and we believe it is true. (and this would most likely be the case, no matter what you believe in – the universe, the law of attraction, meditation etc)

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Next step is to pose yourself a question and rate it how does it feel on a scale of 1 to 10. Let’s say our issue now is that we do not trust ourselves and we lack the confidence to do something. There is going to be a series of questions that you ask yourself and answer. 

What’s the first age I felt this?

(Keep asking the question until you get the answer, it would be the first thing that comes to mind when you pop the question – do not try to think too much about it, just ask the question, – if you are in the proper state of mind for this meditation/exercise, you will receive the answer, you will know it straight away) In this example, I have felt that I did not trust myself and lacked confidence in my body/beauty at the age of 7 years because …. 

Who did I duplicate this from? Was it my mom, my dad, someone else? Who have I learned this behaviour/response to a problem from? 

step by step guide to solve a problem using your intuition

(this question relates a lot to what you answer to the previous question, you will observe that you go deeper and deeper into the core of the issue by posing these questions. It is trying to bring to the surface the reasoning behind your problem) – In my example, I duplicated it from others who have told me that I am not like the others of my age at the time. The fact that my mom did not back me up, supported this belief. 

What’s the emotion attached to it? 

(what do you feel when you think about that situation?) In our example here, embarrassment, shame, inadequacy, something wrong with me, etc. 

Where in my body do I feel this emotion? Where is it located in my body? 

(we ask this question, because as Christie Marie Sheldon explained in her masterclass, we accumulate emotions in our bodies. Our chakras are connected to everything in our physical body. Our chakras are our emotional body. Our energy is our aura and our aura gets disrupted with what happens in our chakras. For everything that we experience physically, there is an emotional memory recorded in our body and thus into our chakras. When our chakras are depleted from energy because the emotions have piled up, we experience blockages. You will ask this question and you will instantly feel it in your body. It’s like an energy, a heat,a tension, something that feels in a specific part of your body.) In our example, I feel it in my stomach. 

After you have located it, imagine the Light coming into that part of the body and say the following positive affirmation, (it’s like a mantra):

I clear and transmute it across all time, dimensions, space and realities. 

I clear and transmute it across all time, dimensions, space and realities. 

I clear and transmute it across all time, dimensions, space and realities. 

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Repeat this several times while at the same time imagining the Light coming into that part of the body. The light is our infinite Self which is Love, compassion, healing, God, the universe. The reason we start our affirmation with I clear and transmute it, is because through these words we delete stored emotions, just as you delete cookies in your internet browser. It would make the browser run smoother. We bring the light to evaporate these stored negative emotions that are blocking us from becoming the best versions of ourselves. We all know how to be the best versions of ourselves.

Following this step: ask the following question:

What would it take for me to feel utterly completely self confident?

(based on our example)

I would need to obtain some form of success that I am fine and have had success even though I am different. If we go deeper, while we are saying what we need so we can feel enough/supported etc (based on each individual problem), you might realise that the answer is already popping out. As in this example, I felt that I should not feel embarrassed and that I should not be ashamed that I am skinny. Or that I do receive feedback on daily basis that I am beautiful. I have positive feedback from colleagues and managers at work that I am doing a great job even though I do not look as society tells us I should like as a woman. Just because I do not have the same appearance does not mean that I am less or more than other people’s capabilities. In our example, we continue after digesting these insights that pop into our minds, with another question.

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On a scale of 1-10 how do you rate now the initial problem with self confidence?

It is a lot of the times, less than what you rated at the beginning of the exercise. If it only dropped let’s say from 9 to 6, you can continue again with the exercise until you feel it is 0. You can do this on a daily basis. This allows our chakras to strengthen as we are clearing the stored useless emotions that block us and prevent us from being the best we can be. It is self work and sometimes we are lazy to work with ourselves, but this is a tool that can help solve a problem. And you get to focus your attention on your intuition a lot, which improves your overall well being, as you train it and it will be manifested more easily after that in your activities.

Due to society’s programming, most people are not tuned into their spiritual self, and so they’re not aware of their true purpose. Many people end up living a life incongruent to their true selves. When a person lives a life unaware of their true spiritual nature, their consciousness is stuck in low vibrational frequencies. And this not only blocks progress, but it creates unnecessary stress and unhappiness.

step by step guide to solve a problem using your intuition

This simple tool is a first small step in a series of facilitating exercises that Christie Marie Sheldon implemented in her programs and I believe it is so easy that we can incorporate it in our day to day life and start seeing results fast and solve our problems using our intuition which is our internal best reassurance guide to take the best decisions.

Have you tried this exercise?


What problem did you solve? 

This is what I should be doing with my life according to Youtube

and this is mostly a type of blog post to showcase my formidable skills and please send this to headhunters 😛

Not sure how many know, because I do not really boost myself with what I had studied, but I am a psychologist and have done lots of personality and psychology tests so far, both professional and more informal ones. The majority of these tests/surveys revealed to me classic introvert jobs I should follow such as writer, editor, administrator, counsellor, psychologist, therapist, which I do relate to. But with these personality tests I took with the help of our mighty Youtube, I discovered more options, although I do feel I should have known this earlier in my lifetime, as I have no time to start now anew. And yes, of course, I totally lack this patience. I want it all now. It’s time I had it all already!  I am just kidding. Not.

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This test says I could love a work that labels me as Advertising Executive (yes, I could do some ads and work on brainstorming ideas and be paid for that), Public Relations Specialist (in other words, someone that uses euphemism to pinpoint something bad that happened – not all the time – but most of the times; still feel I could be very much an expert at this as I can find the positive side to pretty much EVERYTHING), Corporate Coach (OMG – this definitely suits me now, I work in a fraud department call centre and I could coach new people to do my job, I also love implementing motivational stuff and teaching tools to help people learn), Personal Trainer (this would had been a surprise had I not taken this personality hidden talent I have, which turned out to be …. sports! because I am driven and have strong determination, again lots of positive thinking involved here!!), Teacher (well, hello, hello, no surprise to me I had this, I do find joy and fulfilment in teaching), Motivational Speaker (wow, well, what is this blog all about?), Headhunter (this is probably because of my analytical skills and love to chase precious people through all mediums possible and social media, a bit of a stalker) and Fashion Designer – well this is for sure something I would totally dive into – I do have specific taste and whenever I see fashion items as an example in TKmaxx that I like, they all of the time turn out to be of a very unique taste and high quality and belonging to a brand (that I later on google and discover it is a designer item) – this simply highlights my distinguishing exquisite taste in fashion. I am really telling you how great I am now!

According to this funny one I should give my skills to the Public Sector as a teacher (double points here now!), cop (well well, did you know I studied Criminology? – you know now! – this is not a joke), fireman (saving lives!), doctor, flight attendant, animal care workers, Life coach (again double points now!) and HR officer (other double points for the previous test said I could work and enjoy a headhunter job).

This seems to be going well.

Next – this test revealed the following result: “It seems that strategies are important to you. You pride yourself in getting the job done efficiently. You love stability. It seems you love to challenge your mind, so you can learn whatever you want. Your contributions will improve people’s daily life.” Well, isn’t this what I actually wish to achieve with this blog? Read my “Hello” page for that!

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This one seems to be the same as the above but it generated a different path, probably because I also chose different options from the options the test had compared to the previous one. It says that I have a great set of skills that will make me money someday (well, that sounds, plausible:P) and I just need to decide which industry I want to apply them to. Guess what it says next? “Maybe you’ll be a chef in the best restaurants or an Olympic athlete, when you will figure it out, you’re sure to be a huge success.” Yes! Again, it’s strongly connected to my mindset – determination, self-belief and strong heart. Maybe that’s what you should take from me as a teaching from this post, apart from taking those tests to help you out or at least to have some fun:)

Found this very peculiar one, which even though is more like a fun to do take, rather than very practical, I do find insights in it. I got the Wizard – commanding all supernatural forces to do all that I want. In a way, wouldn’t I love having a job in which I can do whatever I want and be the greatest? Don’t we all have that as a dream job perspective?

No matter what you discover through personality and career quizzes, have you read this here about the fact there is always something you can do based on your current skills? These youtube fun tests might help reveal it a bit better, in a different way.

What does Youtube tell you to become or to do with your life?

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How to Dare

The followings are excerpts from the book “Creative Confidence – unleashing the creative potential within us all” and are taken from the chapter named DARE – from fear to courage, which in my opinion, pinpoints not just the creative process, but the decision making in life overall. I found it very useful, meaningful so, hopefully, if you had not had the chance to read the book, these glimpses into its fragments will convince you to pick it up from a book shop.

“Alberta Bandura has had a profound impact on the world of social learning and has been called the greatest living psychologist. He invented the methodology of what he calls guided mastery. The process of guided mastery draws on the power of first hand experience to remove false beliefs. It incorporates psychology tools like vicarious learning, social persuasion and graduated tasks. Along the way, it helps people confront a major fear and dispel it one small, manageable step at a time.”

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The dramatic experience of overcoming a phobia that had plagued them for decades – a phobia they had expected to live with for the rest of their lives – had altered their belief system about their own ability to change. It had altered their belief in what they could accomplish. Ultimately, it transformed their lives.”

“When people have this belief, they undertake tougher challenges, persevere longer, and are more resilient in the face of obstacles and failure. Bandura calls this belief self-efficacy. Doubts in one’s creative ability can be cured by guiding people through a series of small successes. The state of mind Bandura calls self-efficacy is closely related to what we think of as creative confidence. People who have creative confidence make better choices, set off more easily in new directions and are better able to find solutions to seemingly intractable problems. They see new possibilities and collaborate with others to improve the situations around them. And they approach challenges with newfound courage.”

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“In our experience {the authors}, one of the scariest snakes in the room is the fear of failure, which manifests itself in such ways as fear of being judged, fear of getting started, fear of the unknown. And while much has been said about the fear of failure, it still is the single biggest obstacle people face to creative success.”

“Creative geniuses are quite prolific when it comes to failure – they just don’t let that stop them. Research has found that creative people simply do more experiments. If you want more success, you have to be prepared to shrug off more failure. The real measure of success is the number of experiments that can be crowded into 24 hours. The faster you find weaknesses during an innovation cycle, the faster you can improve what needs fixing.

“Albert Bandura used the process of guided mastery – a series of small successes – to help people gain courage and overcome deep seated phobias. What would have been nearly impossible to accomplish in one giant leap became manageable in small steps, with the guidance of someone knowledgeable in the field. In a similar way, we use a step by step progression to help people discover and experience the tools and methodologies of design thinking, gradually increasing the level of challenge to help individuals transcend the fear of failure that blocks their best ideas. These small successes are intrinsically rewarding and help people to go on to the next level. Building confidence through experience encourages more creative action in the future, which further bolsters confidence. The lessons learned from failures may make us smarter – even stronger. But that doesn’t make failure any more fun. So most of us naturally try to avoid failure at all costs. Failure is hard, even painful. Fear of failure holds us back from learning all sorts of new skills, from taking on risks, and from tackling new challenges. But you come to accept that it’s part of learning, and in doing so, you are able to remain confident that you are moving forward despite the setbacks.”

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About “urgent optimism – the desire to act immediately to tackle an obstacle motivated by the belief that you have a reasonable hope of success. Gamers always believe that an epic win is possiblethat it is worth trying, and trying new, over and over again. In the euphoria of an epic win, gamers are shocked to discover the extent of their capabilities. As you move from level to level, success can flip your mindset to a state of creative confidence.We just need to hold out a reasonable hope of success as well as the possibility of a truly epic win. Like a muscle, your creative abilities will grow and strengthen with practice.”

“Diego Rodriguez in his blog Metacool says that innovation thinkers often use informed intuition to identify a great insight, a key need, or a core feature. In other words, relentless practice creates a database of experience that you can draw upon to make more enlightened choices. When it comes to bringing new stuff into the world, Diego argues that the number of product cycles you’ve gone through (what he calls mileage) trumps the number of years of experience. Once you have gone through enough rapid innovation cycles, you will gain familiarity with process and confidence in your ability to assess new ideas. And the confidence results in reduced anxiety in the face of ambiguity when you are bringing new ideas into the world.”

“Whether you consider yourself a born innovator or are new to creative confidence, you can get better faster at coming up with new ideas if you give yourself and those around you the leeway to make mistakes from time to time. – constructive failure. We all need the latitude to try out new ideas. Look for ways to grant yourself creative license, or give yourself the equivalent of a get-out-of-a-jail-free card. Label your next new idea an experiment and let everyone know that you are just testing it out. Lower others’s expectations, so that failure can lead to learning without career damage. Author and educator Tina Seelig asks her students to write a failure resume that highlights their biggest defeats and screw-ups. In the process of compiling their failure resume, however, they come to own their setbacks, both emotionally and intellectually.”

“When a child loses confidence in his or her creativity, the impact can be profound. People start to separate the world into those who are creative and those who are not. They come to see these categories as fixed, forgetting that they too once loved to draw and tell imaginative stories. Too often they opt out of being creative. The tendency to label ourselves as non creatives comes from more than just our fear of being judged. When our self-worth isn’t on the line, we are far more willing to be courageous and risk sharing our raw talents and gifts.”

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“When people are insecure, they’re not at their best. As people become more confident, they eventually adopt a bring-your-whole-self-to-work attitude and allow themselves to be vulnerable in a creative context. This vulnerability and ability to trust the people around you can help to overcome so many of the barriers to creative thinking and constructive behaviour.”

Resilient people, in addition to being resourceful problem solvers, are more likely to seek help, have strong social support and be better connected with colleagues, family and friends. Resilience if often thought of a solo effort – the lone hero who falls and rises up again to do battle. In reality, however, reaching out to others is usually a strategy for success. It doesn’t have to be an admission of weakness. We need others to help us bounce back from adversity and hardship. Dan Roam in his book How to Draw Anything insists that everything you ever need to draw on a whiteboard – or a napkin – can be deconstructed into 5 basic shapes: a line, a square, a circle, a triangle, and an irregular shape he calls a blob. Next, he explains drawing fundamentals – such as size, position, and direction – that can comically simple yet still go underused. On the topic of size, for example, if you make one object bigger than another, your audience will understand that this object is either closer or larger. And so it goes.”

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“If you can draw the 5 shapes above, then visual thinker Dan Roam says you are on your way to being able to draw anything – including people. With a focus on drawing for communication – not art – Dan can arm up your sketching skills in a matter of minutes. For example, Dan has 3 ways of drawing people (as he demonstrates us below) depending on what you want to get across: 1. Stick figures are very simple and convey mood or emotion – especially if you want to make the head one third of total size of person, so you have more room for showing expression. 2. Block figures add a rectangular torso and are good for showing motion or different body postures; 3. Blob figures (also known as star people) don’t show emotion or action well, but provide a quick way to draw groups and relationships.”

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“Dan doesn’t exactly teaches you to draw. He just teaches you how to make better use of the simple drawing skills you already have. With people who draw well, perfectionism can be every bit as crippling as a lack of confidence in non drawers. Non artists need reassurance – and maybe a drawing lesson or 2 – so that they can express themselves in rough sketches when a picture is more powerful than words. And the artists need encouragement to set their perfectionism aside to draw a few simple lines that communicate the essence of their idea. Both need the kind of supportive culture that ignores the quality of their sketches and focuses on the quality of their ideas. Wherever you fall on the artists skill curve, half the battle is to resist judging yourself.

“Courage is the accumulation of small steps. What matters most in the end, though, is this: your belief in your capacity to create positive change and the courage to take action. Creativity, far from requiring rare gifts and skills, depends on what you believe you can do with the talents and skills you already have. And you can develop and build on those skills, talents and beliefs. As Hungarian essayist Gyorgy Konrad once said,

Courage is Only the Accumulation of Small Steps.” 

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Why we love specific fashion clothes

It’s no surprise to you that even if you say you are not interested in fashion, that you actually mean it. Of course you are interested! You use clothes and style and common sense to look good anyway. Fashion does not necessarily contains trends or high street clothes or designer items. Fashion is our personal style and the way we choose to present ourselves to the world. The first time I realised why women love fashion so much was after reading more about the Duchess of Yorkshire Georgiana Cavendish (Yes, my mom named me after a duchess and well, I live hopefully to at least reach her toes in terms of accomplishments for the world), who loved fashion very much and used fashion as a means of changing society, showing her mind, her thoughts, her self to the world, expressing her inner world to the people around her. That’s when I realised why we love specific fashion clothes or items. 

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It is because they remind us of a specific feeling we have when we wear them. It is because that specific clothing item was worn or seen in a very specific moment of our lives, when we registered that to obtain as an example the feeling of success or the feeling of happiness or the feeling of security or the feeling of tranquillity or the feeling of total freedom and peace someone who highlighted or made us believe they feel that way was wearing something very similar to what we want. Because our brains do shortcuts and the logical flow of events here is something as it follows:

I see this person who seems to be happy and has everything she or he wants. I like the way he or she is dressed. I like what she or he inspired me to feel or think or even act on. I want to feel like that too. Therefore, intuitively and subconsciously we will choose everything possible from that image we have in our brains of that situation to bring it to reality in our lives. And that may mean purchasing that dress or that hat or those shoes. Because in our minds, we collect those small pieces and we will soon re-create the puzzle we had seen before and we too will be happy.

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It is a mixed feeling of confusion and belief that it is the things that are bringing happiness or success to that person, but it is actually the feelings we sense from that person, its energy, its life that we feel attracted to and which we actually deep down desire. Sometimes we do not have the financial situation to get those items. But we never forget them, we may believe we do, but the next time (which can also actually be even in years time) we see something similar to that life perfect image we hold in our minds, we are reminded we want that. And we say, I really love this piece of clothing. It suits me so well. I love it so much. And we buy the item.

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We buy the feeling we believe that item will bring to us. Of course, there are times and lots of times, when what we buy is actually worth it because first of all, even though deep penetrated into our souls and maybe even forgotten that its root to us liking it comes from the past, it really suits us and it does look amazing on us. Because whenever we recorded that image of the situation in our brains, we recorded very well if we would actually also look good in that. We use our brains to analyse so much that it is like our second language, and so we do not realise its power. We know very well what and how to wear something to be beautiful. Of course, I have to make an amendment and a sort of a disclaimer: you must have a bit of a common sense to understand that you do not need to leave your house in a bra or in extremely short shorts or skirts to feel attractive or successful or something alike our common up side down media portrayed value idols. I am not referring to that.

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I will give you an example. When I was younger, my mom used to wear lots of skirts and dresses that seem to flow with her when she was walking. This is how I remember it. They were colourful and looked so good on her. I remember one time when she came to visit us (myself and my brother) when we were on a summer holiday with our grandparents. She had a flowery summery mid skirt along with a sleeveless body-con type like top. She had heeled wedges, hair in the wind and a stylish bag or that is what it felt to me back then and her now vintage cat eye sunglasses. I can envision that moment quite clearly and it was a hot summer day and she looked amazing. So feminine, so powerful, so lovable and so elegant and full of dignity if you understand what I mean. That image has been in my mind for such a long time, (as I remember I was around 10 years old when I pressed that record button in my brain), that only recently I realised that is the main reason I like to dress like that! That’s the reason I like heels, because I felt in that moment that my mom felt amazing wearing her clothes, and felt amazing wearing her skirt and it felt to me she is feminine yet strong and bold and having the power to achieve EVERYTHING she wants. And that feeling is what I wanted to get. She was wearing something that I knew I need to wear myself to feel like that and become as such. Now, bear in mind, I am a fine observer. I see details especially when in relation to psychology and the human mind workings. I am very introspective and that;s probably due to my introvert nature. That’s how I developed this judgemental mind around clothes. My clothes and what I like to wear. So, when I finally wear items creating the look from my subconscious mind, I actually do feel strong, feminine, capable and so beautiful, as if everything is possible. I have a special pleasure of collecting wedges. Well, I guess, we now know why! It’s easy to walk in it, they look great, you are taller and more elegant, especially when wearing a skirt. Lady like style.

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This is how a woman expresses herself. She envisions what she wants to feel like without consciously being aware of that, then she follows the trends and at one point in time, there it is the dress or fashion item that she needed to bring her to the successful life she desires. Sometimes, we register incorrect patterns of success. Clothing that is no longer appropriate for our ages or for women in general. Every single one of us has made that mistake at least once. But most of the times, from what I have realised and lived, when we admire someone very much, we are extremely attentive to how they wear themselves in the world, how they speak, how they look, what accessories they wear and so on, we observe so well the details in those moments because we are very curious and we want to have the same lifestyle as that particular person we look at to. So, when we see something we believe looks amazing because that person influences us with its perception and because we admire and trust its thinking, we too, unknowingly become obsessed with it too, and we will buy that item with the next occasion. Again, that may even be in one year or a couple of years or even more or maybe less. But, what’s a fact, is that, we love specific fashion items because they represent something very deep to us, a feeling which we want to feel, a success we want to live, a life we want to have. They fashion items are part of that dream life or feeling and to achieve that, we also use material stuff to get that feeling. We do use our logic too, sorry to disappoint you, if you were going to say something mean, but this is how the brain actually works. Through shortcuts to keep us happy.

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When we chase specific fashion items, we chase specific feelings of success or freedom or happiness which are associated with that image that we recorded in the first place. 

We express ourselves so subtle. This is what I have been collecting lately on my desired tkmaxx clothes folder.

Would any of these make you feel you like it too?

Coral Embroidered Strapless Mini Dress

Maybe you have your own story to it?

Navy Umbrella Print Waterproof Trench Coat TULCHAN

What are you chasing after? 

Vanilla Cream Floral Print Kimono STELLA NOVA

It seems to me I am chasing freedom of expression, peace, success and happiness. EVERYTHING 🙂 

Maybe you notice that I am creating outfits out of all the items I like

lue & White Pineapple Print Skater Dress

I have wrote another similar post here, with more fashion loves! 

I hope you have enjoyed reading this, thank you so much for taking your time to read through my blog! Let me know if you have discovered your reasons for liking specific fashion items down below!

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1 Year of intermittent Intermittent Fasting

No, no, it’s not a misspelling. This is all about my 1 year experience of intermittently doing intermittent fasting. Last year in the beginning of May, I came across some information about fasting on YouTube. I knew a bit about fasting and what it does and what it means to the body from the religious point of view. Yes, and the food you are supposed to eat and not eat during the fasting period. However, intermittent fasting was something new to me at the time. At least the concept or the name given, because in a way I had been practising it when I was younger before going to uni.

What is intermittent fasting? It’s the same question I asked myself. It is a regular fasting by which you eat in a specific eating window daily, letting your digestive system to breathe for 16-18 hours per day. During those 16-18 hours (or a bit less, if you are just starting, let’s say 12-14 hours) you do not eat anything. You just drink water, tea or coffee (with no sugar or milk). Because I was hooked with the idea of cleansing the body and having a better digestion and charmed by the release of the growth hormone that occurs during the fasting period and its wonderful anti-aging effects, I jumped onto it. From eating all day long, every 2 hours for 16 hours a day, I moved in one night to eating 2 times a day during 8 hours. The opposite of what I was doing up until that point. I had no issues in adjusting to the schedule of eating. In fact, because I was expecting to experience the hunger effect in the morning, I went on with the expectation that I will be feeling hungry, but I will drink more tea. Clean even more my body. It was very easy to me to do it. Contrary to what I expected it to be, a bit harsh, not very easy to adapt but it will be worthwhile, it was extremely smooth in my experience. Probably because I wanted it to work so much. I was enthusiastic about my discovery and about Dr. Berg’s YouTube Channel. It was also Kinobody Channel that I discovered and a few others after digging more, Thomas DeLauer (who is more into ketosis) and at the time, I was watching Jon Venus for a while also, and realised that he had a video on fasting a while ago too, but at the time, it did not click anything in my head. Probably because I was associating fasting with something radical and too sudden, like dry fasting or religious fasting as it is in my religion. So, researching more and more with each day I was fasting, I realised how natural it comes to me to do it, but at the same time, was doing some exercises because I wanted to tone up my body. Kinobody entered my frequency for that scope. Little by little, I learned more about the process and realised the deep changes that were taking place inside and outside my body. The first week went off quite fast. And because I was pleased with the easiness of it all, the flow of the experience, it’s probably why I carried on. The first few days, the first main difference occurred.

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I realised just how much clearer and focused I was compared to the times of the past when I would eat every 2 hours to have energy and enough drive to go through the day, to cope with the multitude of tasks and customers over the phone in a very demanding and challenging fraud department of a call centre. I realised just how my concentration improved, I was able to deal with the situation so much smoother and I had a better mood overall to deal with stress. I believed that you need sugar and glucose in your blood and brain to have energy. I was so wrong. You need the lack of that to be focused. To have determination. Perseverance. To avoid procrastination and to be dynamic and energetic. 

Intermittent fasting made me realise just how much I was addicted to food, and sweets to believe that I needed it to go through the day. To actually work well. My brain was foggy and addicted to food. I was eating every 2 hours because that’s what some doctors and health specialists recommend, to eat often and less. But that triggers your insulin levels every 2 hours. Those mood swings? That insulin going up and down every time you eat was the main reason I had mood swings. And they were powerful, I was so mad, angry and upset on myself for my job. I hated my job. I thought that the reason I felt so up and down was the work I was doing. Maybe it played a part too, but then, how come after this intermittent fasting, the game changed completely? Little by little, I realised it was not the job itself. It was my lack of focus, my lack of presence in dealing with the tasks and customers situations was the reason I felt I did not enjoy what I was doing. I was caught in a carousel of emotions every minute because my brain needed more sugar to have the energy necessary to deal with frustrations, stress and challenges, and deadlines and timescales. I believed you need energy to cope with a demanding job. I was wrong. What you need is focus, a clear head and a peaceful mind. Those mood swings caused by this insulin swing and insulin resistance were not making me feel at peace. My mind was scattered in thousands of directions and I could not focus on one thing, because I did not wish to focus on what thing. I was actually wanting to deal with the feelings I had at the time. Those feelings of frustrations and feeling stressed, overwhelmed, annoyed with customers and annoyed with life for being forced to have that type of job (which I still do, but I have a so much better, peaceful and mindful approach towards). I had my brain injected with poison every day, every single hour and my brain only wanted the sugary thing. My brain could not focus on the task at hand. It had to deal with its addiction. I, on the other hand, had to deal with my brain addiction and its lack of focus to cope with my job. I was torn apart because I was upset on myself for not being able to cope with the chocolate addiction and for not being able to handle my job fulfilment. Too many emotions. So much chocolate drama. Food drama. I was constantly thinking at my next break and what to eat. I was always thinking of food and what I could eat. All the time, my brain and my mind were located in the food paradise. It is overwhelming for the conscious mind. It was not sustainable and anyone reading this, understanding what I say, feeling alike or glimpsing, yeah, it kind of feels like me, my God, you have no idea that life does not need to be like that.

Intermittent fasting has changed my life. I have also learned lots of stuff about health and mostly about myself and about my mind. Not my brain. My brain does what my mind tells him. The brain is an engine that we need to use for our mind’s use. It’s not the other way around, as most of the people live by, and as I lived by not long ago.

After the first month of intermittent fasting, I lost my period. I lost it for around 2 months, and then freaked out and stopped the 16-18 hours of fast. Went back to eating around 3-4 meals a day without skipping breakfast, but this time, it was different. Eating regularly felt different. I was more aware of what I was experiencing when I wanted to eat something in particular. Especially if the food desired was chocolate. I knew I was craving that because I felt unloved. I felt unfulfilled professionally. I felt I was not using my gifts or my talents and I would need sugar to compensate me for my failures. It was as if my brain was telling me, but you have this, eat this now and you will feel better, you’ll see, life is better after something sweet, life is sweeter after sweets. I realised I was not my brain nor my mind. I was more than that and I was not a reflection of what I felt I should eat. I understood the differences between what my brain is, what my mind is, and what my consciousness and spirituality is. I felt free of the burden of my brain addicted to food and free from thinking all day long of food. I felt free to actually focus on what I had to focus on. Things were so much clearer in my head and they transpired in my work. I was getting better at focusing at my day to day role. I felt less the stress that a couple of months ago I was experiencing. I was more at peace with myself. This was such a great realisation to me. Like an epiphany. Something like, so that’s why this happened. So that’s why I was doing that. It was like suddenly knowing something.


My chocolate cravings diminished hugely during and after the intermittent fasting period. I went on after the 2 months intermittent fasting to a one month let’s say normal eating, but I was still eating in a eating frame window of around 12 hours. I was letting more time between meals before jumping to another one and I felt less and less the need to eat every 3 hours. I felt relieved. I mean, if this is what rehabilitated people from drugs or alcohol feel, I do understand why they would fell off track. It’s the emotional side of the addiction that needs cure, not the biological one. It’s very easy to make your brain understand it does not need something you are addicted to, but it is hard and it takes time to make your heart understand a trauma or an emotional conflict and how to overcome it correctly without the involvement of addictive substances. Because sugar is a substance if you did not know. A toxic one. It’s poison. POISON. TOXIC. Then during that time, my period came back. So I decided to adjust my fasting window to one more hour. But it turned out it was actually 15-16 hours, it’s just that I did not realise how easy it was for me to forget I needed food. I was not feeling hungry and when I was eating I was enjoying food SO MUCH MORE THAN EVER BEFORE. I could sense and taste more. My experience with food not only changed but improved in terms of sensations. It’s weird. I realised I was actually doing intermittent fasting without knowing in early November. I think I had a flu or something because in November my period did not come. But at that point I was not as concerned as I was in the first month. Because by that time I thought I just need to stop this for 2 weeks and it will flow again. Which it did. but then, I met a health consultant and I realised just how wrongly I had been eating all that time. Even though my sweet cravings have diminished a lot and the sweets that I was eating were more natural or better, and I was anyway and still am into organic food and wholefoods, I was making mistakes which I hope you will not do. Eating sweets after main meals, no matter what label of natural and better for you they have, is still sugar and sugar combined with any other food is alcohol to the liver. It’s more than sugar toxicity. It’s damaging for the liver, especially in the long term. The second mistake was that I was not consuming enough of greens, I was eating vegetables and I love them, but I enjoy more peppers and tomatoes and radishes and onions. I love onions. Very little greens like salads, kale or spinach. And that’s a huge mistake on a ketosis (high protein diet or lifestyle) or an intermittent fasting lifestyle. When you fast, the body releases lots of toxins from the body and they go through the liver to be cleaned out of the blood and the body. Not having enough of greens and its nutrients an other chemicals that help the liver to stream them out of the body is quite heavy for the liver. It’s like unpaid overtime. After a while, the performance will diminish. Why bother when there is no pay? I stopped that non-sense I would say in time. But that does not mean that the years before that, when I would eat a bit of desert after each meal, which is like alcohol after every single meal for more than 10 years-15 years, have not marked some difficulties for my liver to clean myself and itself. If the liver cannot heal itself through the greens we consume, then it won’t have the capacity to clean toxins and waste from our bodies. And that’s when I finally understood why parents said to us when we were young that we must consume vegetables and we must eat our greens. They must have heard it from their parents too and maybe in the past it was simply put out as for health benefits because vegetables have lots of nutrients and vitamins. But the reason we need it, is because those vitamins and nutrients help us live. If our liver would not perform as it’s supposed and expected to, then it would not have much life, and neither would we.

So, bottom line, eat your greens daily. In November last year, I did change a bit my lifestyle and my intermittent fasting became even more drastic. I stopped eating sugar. Little by little, I had since December last year to April this year a sugar free diet or lifestyle. And it felt amazing. I did lose a lot of weight (2 kg for me, being quite skinny, is a lot) mainly because I stopped consuming those foods which were high in sugar and hidden sugars and because sweets were expelled for a while from my diet. I talked about my sugar free experience in this post here, if you are curious how that made me feel and what I learned from that.

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The reason I called this post intermittent intermittent fasting is because my whole year was intermittently an intermittent fasting. I had 16-18 hours of fast. I had 12-14 hours of fast and also I had 10 hours of fast. But I did not once had a fast lower than 10 hours. In the last month, being April at the time of this post, I had intermittent fasting for around 12-14 hours. Which seems to work best for me now. And I started including a bit of sugar too. The recommended sugar per day should be 20 grams max. If you take a look at a package of biscuits you will realise, the whole package if eaten, and most of the times, by most people it is, it contains 40-60 grams of sugar. Can you imagine how much toxicity is in your body if only one package of biscuits has that amount and you would consume your coffee with sugar, you have a fruit yogurt or you eat a piece of cake as desert? And that’s without counting the hidden sugar in bread, sometimes meat, precooked meals etc. It’s unbelievable.

When I started intermittent fasting, I did not want it to lose weight. I am skinny anyway and always have been. I was interested in the long term benefits such as anti aging effects due to release of the growth hormone, no more insulin resistance, detoxifying my body naturally, better focus, improved sleep. I actually forgot to mention this, but I experienced a diminished need for sleep. And when it comes to sleep I am a koala bear. I would sleep A LOT. This aspect changed since doing IF. I am not needing to have 10 hours of sleep. I am able to cope just above fine with 7-8 hours. Which is an extra benefit to me. I am no longer tired and dreading to wake up in the morning. The attitude towards that changed also probably because my moods are now constant. And not up and down. I have lost weight even though my purpose was not that, but I am comfortable getting it back too, I would simply need to switch off the IF for a couple of months and eat regularly like 4 times a day. I noticed that when I was fasting and training I had seen an improvement in my muscles, in the sense that I was a difference before when exercising and not doing IF and after. It was more vivid the change. IF also is said to actually maintain your muscles and contrary to the believes that if you do not eat, your muscles will lose their weight. Actually, that happens when you are starving, but during IF you are not starving, you simply are not hungry because your body naturally does its job and it provides the energy it needs from the fat stored in your body, without the need to ask your brain to manipulate you into giving a treat. Cause, we are not dogs, are we?

In conclusion, my intermittent fasting thought me the following 5 important things:

  • I am not my brain and its thoughts. I am consciousness and I am human.
  • Mindfulness is very powerful and you understand it better through intermittent fasting, being much capable of practising it in other areas after an IF experience
  • Your focus is on your food or on your present moment. It’s one of the two. If you are not experiencing the present moment, it’s because you have a food addiction and an insulin resistance issue.
  • Peace truly comes from within. I have found peace and the opposite of this peace is called insulin resistance and its twisted mood swings and impulsive actions and consequences.
  • Do not underestimate your brain nor its power to dominate you. You have no idea how clever you are. You sabotage yourself daily and you don’t even know that it’s your brain doing it to you, because it’s the brain controlling you instead of you controlling your brain. And it’s really not that hard to manage it.

Intermittent fasting is part of my lifestyle now, I am also considering ketosis, however that is something that in my opinion should be tried out a couple of times during the year, like a couple of months. Do more research into that. Do lots of research into intermittent fasting if you are going to try it out. Do not jump into an 18 hours fasting period because, even though at first I thought it was easy, it was not easy to my body, my period disappeared. A hormonal imbalance does not equal health. Do it gradually, from 9 hours of fasting to 10 and so on. I am now doing 12 hours simply because my body is a machine. It serves me, but I need to take care of it. Sometimes you take your car to repairs. Sometimes you need to be loose. Experiment with balance. This is what I want to do. Not too much of anything but not too little either. A bit of everything in equal parts. Intermittently.

That’s how life is. Intermittent times of great fulfilment and deep mad disappointments. What we need, is to learn to jog with the two and bring the positives from a negative experience and think of the bad things in a good thing. Insulin resistance should be stopped in emotional situations too. Going from high to low is devastating and rising from low to high can be to euphoric sometimes and too much adrenaline may cause issues. Equilibrium. Intermittent equilibrium.

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What I learned from my sugar free experience

Last November I had an encounter with a health consultant and something simply clicked in my head with regards to sugar and sweets. The health consultant was mentioning about specific foods which should not be consumed as per my blood type, if I remember correctly. We were discussing the fact that I don’t cope very well, well not me, but my body, does not cope very well with dairy. Particularly milk. We went on to discuss about the fact that dairy should not be consumed with anything else. At that point in time, I already had enough info about certain food combinations, but for some reason, dairy was never something that I considered that much, probably because I do not really eat dairy on a daily basis and when I do consume it, I am very particular about what I can eat because over the years I have learned how to listen to my body and its reactions to what I put in it. And, maybe because I am not that much into dairy, that I never really put that much effort into it, as the only thing that I would eat would be butter, meaning on a regular basis. And, it got to that point that this health consultant said to me that dairy products are not to be eaten with anything else as they digest very slow or cannot be digested if mixed up with anything else. Not sure how the conversation went to sweets, well, I do, it’s because I used to have a strong addiction towards chocolate, and he mentioned that sugar consumed with any other type of food ferments in the stomach, causing indigestion and moreover, alcohol. Oh, wait, I remember, it’s because I had done some analysis for my liver.

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And my liver came back as if I was a bit of an alcoholic. But I am a particular alcoholic. The last time I remember having a sip of wine was ages ago. I don’t even drink on New Years Eve or on any special occasions, not because I have something against it, but because it is extremely dehydrating to the body and of course, because I do not wish to put my liver to do overtime. It’s not like it pays off. If you get the joke. My liver does enough of taking care of that huge amount of sweets I used to do. And it does a lot now, trying to clean up the mess left behind from more than 30 years with that lifestyle. So, when I heard that my liver believes I am an alcoholic, a little light popped up around my senses as if it was the emergency line screaming OMG. But, why? It turns out my sweet tooth is the culprit. So, naturally, it determined me to stop even more the cravings. I was already doing intermittent fasting, and my sweet tooth already was vastly diminished to what it compared to be, and was already switching to more so believed at the time “natural” and “organic” sweets. But that is still sugar. No matter what other beautiful or green label you add to sugar, that is still sugar and it will behave in your body the same way a non organic sweet or an artificial sweet would do. Sugar is the most toxic thing ever invented and we consume it daily. The sugar was transforming me into an alcoholic. I care about my liver very much. My liver is very important to me. We have a strong connection, I mean, it cleans my body of harmful things I eat and it is the most important organ in the body, having to deal with producing protein, breaking down old and damaged blood cells, breaks down the fats and produces energy. You name it. It is a detoxifying organ as well and it metabolizes drugs. No, not that kind of drugs. The medicines or supplements we take. How can I not be careful with it?

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I did not stop sugar right away as with my addiction, I would have probably went into chocolate withdrawal. I ate less and less every day and payed more attention to the sugar and how I felt about it, I was becoming more mindful around my thoughts about sugar and sweets. After around 2 weeks, I completely gave up pastry, cookies, biscuits, sweets, organic sweets, natural sweets, or fruits in high amounts of fructose. I was not consuming sodas or any other things like that anyway, when I was drinking my tea, it was without sugar and I rarely have coffee, like once in a couple of years. It was especially hard the first few days but then, the more time passed, the better I felt and I realised how free I had come to become. Free from the prison my brain crayoned for me, telling me, I need a bit of sugar to deal with this, I need a bit of sugar to care for myself, to love myself, I need a bit of chocolate, my brain is foggy. It was foggy because it was too much sugar. Not because it was too little of it. I had become free of the thought what type of organic natural chocolate to buy,  or when should I eat that piece of chocolate, or when is the next break to have a sweet snack to cope with today? Free from drama. Free from chocolate drama and all its aftermath: OMG, I ate so much, OMG I am fat, OMG cellulite. ETC.

I have been sugar free for around 4 months. I have to say it was amazing. I am back on sugar now, but do not imagine I went into a sugar free type of an experience for a detox period (even though I know this is how it may sound like), I wanted to do this to stop having days in which everything I ate was sugary no matter if that was gluten free and organic. Due to this, I am able to control my urges far better than before and that’s because I am more mindful of the sugar and its consequences and of the brain’s addiction or maybe of my brain’s lack of something and I start analysing what is making me feel this need of sugar. During these 4 months of sugar free, I realised that whenever I was craving sweets, it was not because I was in the mood for something sweet, which was what my brain was manipulating me into believing, as the brain was manipulated by the toxin called sugar, it was because there was 1 possibility out of 3 options: 

  • -emotional lack of some sort of a feeling, usually not feeling loved or lack of perception of love
  • -being bored and my brain needing something to get it stimulated
  • -inertia from past habits to have something sweet or social copy paste of some sort (if a colleague was having a snack, the habit of eating snacks together, or even by myself, as a form of caring for myself, you know, the idea that you need time for yourself and you would treat yourself with something to enjoy the experience more, to carpe diem shit, but this time, really harmfully twisted, it’s like a sort of live today to die tomorrow)

Sugar when consumed with bread, dairy, pastries, meat, eggs, ANY TYPE OF FOOD, it converts in alcohol in the liver. ALCOHOL. Eating daily like this will more than likely bring health issues and I bet that if you also consume alcohol regularly, it will be even more harmful. Sugar is dangerous. It’s an assumed type of danger we all take, a risk if you want. But with all risks, we need to take precautions. The precaution in the case of sugar is to eat less, consume it mindfully and understand that it is a toxin. It’s toxic. No matter what your brain is telling you now, because it’s actually the brain that is addicted rather than your body, and your brain is confused, it is toxic and you must engrave that in your brain. You must associate sugary things with toxicity. And not just any type of toxicity, it’s the type that will kill you for sure, but obviously, slowly, so that you won’t know it was its fault. 

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To stop your sugar addiction, I recommend watching the documentary That sugar Film. It will bring a bit more clarity to your confused brain. And I am sorry if I am a bit harsh. So, is sugar. Harsh, but sweet. I can be sweet too. And tell you that you can do it like I do, consume maximum 20 grams of sugar per day. Even though I do make sure I have lots of days from the 7 days per week, sugar free. And by sugar free I mean free from the artificial sugar, and the hidden sugar. There is a lot of sugar in bread, in salami, in hummus, in milk, in pre-packaged food, in yogurt. I cannot think of anything else now, not because there would not be a zillion other products that have sugar, but because I stopped consuming lots of them, and I cannot name any now, since they’re not on my radar. I should have written this when I still did have them popping my brain each time I was hungry. Months ago.

If you do eat bread, ham, salami, pre-packaged food, lots of sandwiches, Subways, or Macs or whatever else you have, let me tell you something, you are consuming sugar. Sugar is also a great so-called “natural” preservative. You can find it in canned foods. Everywhere. It’s everywhere. It’s really everywhere. It’s very, very hard to actually find something with no sugar. Maybe those food products on which it is especially written SUGAR FREE. And most of the times, some of those, do have sugar, but it has the scientific name of other type of sugar: xylitol, corn syrup, inverted corn syrup, maize syrup, and all sorts of other chemical artificial sugars. It’s still sugar. This even worse, as it is more chemical. You really have no idea what you put in your body. Then you wonder, why you are sick, why you gained weight, why you are not losing the weight, why you’re moody. Why. Why. Why. Lots of whys. Because the answer is SUGAR. If food is the main culprit of all diseases, then by logic, since all food contains sugar, and sugar is toxic, sugar is the main culprit of all diseases. Remove sugar and you will gain clarity of thought and of body weight. You will be healthier than ever before. Sugar and sweets is so toxic that the body needs to take the vitamins and minerals and nutrients to actually clean up the body from the toxic waste it leaves. By using our vitamins and nutrients to remove the sugar, we are left with no vitamins and nutrients for our main organs so that our bodies can show health. That’s how harsh sugar is. The sweeter it is, the more it endangers your health. 

Sugar free means health. Clarity of thought. Clarity of moods. Less ups and downs in happiness and sadness. More mindfulness. Sugar free comes with a better understanding of one’s self. With a deeper meaning and a greater comprehension around the brain and the differences between the brain and the mind and the consciousness. You will realise you are more peaceful when you are sugar free and the one thing that will probably remain the rest of your life after a sugar free experience or treatment or detox, whatever you want to name it, is the blunt fact that you do not think all the time about food and you are not the food you eat, not in that sense, that what you eat is what you look like. You are not defined by food. You do not live to eat. You eat to be able to live. See the difference. Better, taste the difference with your own sugar free experience. I dare you! 

And if you did do it, let me know in the comments below, I am interested in how you feel or have felt 🙂

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Careers in Psychology

I am writing about this because I am exploring my options with my degree in Psychology. When I applied to study Psychology, I did so believing I will end up working in my own private practice and doing therapy, mostly as seen on TV. However, the demands and requirements to actually achieve that status have forced me to surrender way too soon and after years of not finding my place in the field due primarily to my lack of interest in researching more my options, I have ended up working in a call centre and stopping fraudsters defraud the customers. I am still working within my field of operation as I have a Master’s Degree in Knowing and Combating Crime within Psychology and it is fun when you catch them and you are able to save the customer the hassle. But, it is still a call centre. As much as some people would say that you would learn far more from that experience in terms of human behaviour than from any other random undergraduate job, I can really say, I had enough of what I learned from that particular human behaviour. It’s time to upgrade my game. That’s why I writing this post. Mostly to myself, motivating that strong desire in me to take the leap. Or at least to plant the seeds of it. I think I am ready now to hit the walls. Maybe it’s just the age or maybe it’s just my calling, no matter how arrogant that may seem to you, my dear reader. You, too, will reach this point in your life, when you will know rightly that your time has come. Not to shine. But to enjoy your work.

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Nowadays, there are myriad ways to apply your knowledge of psychology. The only problem is, everywhere a little tiny huge experience is required. I would not say that I lack the experience at this stage, because, the truth of the matter is, 10 years of work and study have build me an experience, yes, probably more in the empirical side of psychology, but when you have studied Psychology, that’s more than just empirical, in my opinion, as everything that happens to you becomes extremely easy to digest in terms what that is called, why is happening, how you should cope and what are the lessons out of that observation and lived experience. So, yes, life experience, if that’s what you want it to be named. But that’s psychological life experience, because every single graduate of Psychology will relate to the world in a different, far better way than someone who did not study the field, plus, they can understand better not just themselves, but their peers and family and friends, maybe even sharing a bit of that knowledge to help them too, if they are open to receiving it. So, that experience collated with my love of twisting words and phrases and minds, surely should catapult me to new heights in terms of dream jobs, right? Well, I will need to explore it to actually come up with an answer. But first, let’s dive into the roads of each possibility within the psychology field of operation to actually obtain a career in psychology.

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Psychology Today Magazine April 2018 Issue

Pictures containing the information comes from the Psychology Today Issue April 2018 and I think they portray greatly and concisely what you need to do to get to work in your psychology study, and I speak to myself too.

There are 4 degree types – medical, doctorate, master and bachelor. Each of that bring upon a different career option, a speciality field, requirements and how it can be achieved. So let’s start with the basic one, bachelor’s degree.

Bachelor’s degree in Psychology 

Bachelor Degree in Psychology Career Options

Master’s Degree in Psychology 

Master Degree in Psychology career path options

Medical Degree in Psychology 

Medical Degree in Psychology Career Path Options

Doctorate Degree in Psychology

Doctorate Degree in Psychology Career Options

Maybe you want to set up your own practice but have no clue how to start? Well, I found this link helpful. Maybe you will, too.

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Psychology Today Magazine April 2018 Issue

All of the above sounds really nice and clear to follow. When you have a map to where you want to go, is very easy to achieve that. Just make sure to not loose yourself on the way to your destination, as I did, inspired by Red Riding Hood. Be more of a wolf persevering in catching its sheep. The sheep is the position you seek. Don’t let it slip through your fingers. A wolf is courageous and it changes its fur to adapt to the seasons, but it’s always with its eyes and mind on the ball. Make sure to stick to your vocation. Even if it finds you later in life, or after years of hassle, like in my experience, your love of psychology will transpire in your work and it will make a difference to your life. Just like in this beautiful story here. Or this Paulo Coelho story about how to ignite your fire and chase your precious dreams.

And if you are still not decided, here’s what Psychology study did to me, read here, 10 things that happen when you study Psychology and here, facts I learned during uni to guide my life upon. Enjoy the experience! 

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White & Blue

I was writing about our colour preference and its subconscious meaning in this post last year and I remember very well that at that specific point in time, my 3 choice colours were green, turquoise and blue, I even confessed it in the blog post, and now, taking the test again, I selected green, turquoise and red or violet. This means my objectives and goals have shifted directions. They are different than September last year. But I did not reach this important fact by taking the test again. Actually, I just took the test now, while writing this blog post, as I wanted to include that article here, as a reference.

And if you want to learn how to name all colours correctly, try bookmarking this page here and discover your favourite colour name. 

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I reached this conclusion a couple of days ago, when I realised most of my clothing wish list *temporarily being held on my tkmaxx folder on my laptop – are ranging from the colour palette turquoise, white, hints of deep reds or magenta, some pink and obviously my top preferred greens.

Would you like to have a sneak peak?

Here … they are! 

However, most of my fashion likes from tkmaxx website incorporate blue and white.

If you love the items and colour choices, you might benefit from reading further! I would love it, if you would do!

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I found this website quite recently, and having a scroll through my favourite colour at the time of the browsing, I realised the insights and knowledge and info contained in it, is worth being bookmarked – again initially, after discovering it, green was my first choice. And today, I decided to read why am I attracted to blue and white garments. It turns out, corroborated with the colour personality test you can also take here and of course, on this website I said about bookmarking, the deepest need for a turquoise colour personality is to create emotional balance in their life, to be able to express their hopes and dreams no matter how idealistic they may be and to make their own way in the world under their own terms. Yes, I find myself in this depiction. The deepest need for a white colour personality is to create simplicity in their life and to be independent and self reliant, so that I would not need to depend on anyone else. There’s a special note about white and I quote: “Rarely is this colour a favourite colour from childhood – white tends to become a favourite at a time when you are going through a transitional period in your life, preparing for new beginnings or seeking a new direction in one or more areas of your life.

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Well, remember my last update on my About, now Hello page? – I was confessing I am actually deciding whether I still want to go ahead with this blog and if so, how. Colours do work. Reading more about turquoise, I find that it means open communication and clarity of thought. Which in a way, is what happened with me when confessing my perfectionism struggle through my Hello page, as at the bottom of this desire to make it better or the deep subtitle of me, even sharing that, lies a hidden thought that I have not achieved the stability I desire through doing what I want to do in life and earning money from what I love doing. Then, I will follow with this phrase: “In colour psychology, turquoise controls and heals the emotions creating emotional balance and stability. … Turquoise encourages inner healing through its ability to enhance empathy and caring. It heightens our intuitive ability and opens the door to spiritual growth. It is the colour of the evolved soul. Turquoise has strong powers of observation and perception and can be quite discriminating. It has the ability to identify the way forward, the way to success, balancing the pros and cons, the right and wrong, of any situation. It is a good colour to use when you are stuck in a rut and don’t know which way to move.

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White – it’s the colour at its most complete and pure, the colour of perfection. Obviously, it reiterates what I have been feeling like lately: “In colour psychology white is the colour of new beginnings, of wiping the slate clean, so to speak. It is the blank canvas waiting to be written upon. While white isn’t stimulating to the senses, it opens the way for the creation of anything the mind can conceive. White is a colour of protection and encouragement, offering a sense of peace and calm, comfort and hope, helping alleviate emotional upsets. It creates a sense of order and efficiency, a great help if you need to de-clutter your life. White may indicate the completion of a cycle in your life – you may find you have a desire for white clothing or white in your surroundings at a time when you are moving in a new direction in your life.” I am only sharing a bite size of the insightful powerful information discovered along my way to understand my recent change of perception in choices made whether buying clothes or other items, such my Avene Hydrance Serum (whose bottle is transparent and the white, creamy moisturiser or hydrating serum can be seen – white again) or a book, whose cover is white, or light green or hints of magenta – my recent book haul, (I have uploaded a picture on my instagram, also, below, now that I am writing this, realise, the colours are impacting my life in a big way!).

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This stuff really works, imagine this – your subconscious goes through updates, and maybe upgrades, and it reflects outwards through our colour choices, which you could say, it’s just what I like, and actually, it reflects your true colours – so, what if, when you want to change something or you would like to upgrade your skills or improve your status quo, you would start incorporating more the specific colour that can help you attain that “goal”. You can listen to each colour subconscious meaning here, by the way.

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Those deep hints of red or magenta (and by the way, did you also notice, I uploaded an extra photo with magenta leaves & trees in my Hello page, between the lines explaining what I am doing with this blog?) also say something about me. Magenta is actually the colour of universal harmony and emotional balance. “With magenta as your favourite colour you seek harmony and balance in every aspect of your life; physically, emotionally and spiritually – magenta helps to release old patterns of thinking and behaving that no longer serve you, helping you to grow and move forward to greater balance. With a vivid imagination and creative ability, you are a non-conformist who sees life from a different point of view. This will show up in artistic pursuits … With magenta you also love to surround yourself with beauty as it inspires your creativity.” And now the cherry on the cake when speaking about the deepest need of a personality colour magenta – Your deepest need is to have a perfect balance in your physical, emotional, mental and spiritual attributes to become totally aligned and at one with yourself.” Then, reading about the red, as we all know it is the colour of energy, passion and action, I do feel I am dynamic and actively trying to figure out how to do my own thing, and the deepest need for choosing red is physical achievement, fulfilment and satisfaction and to experience life through the five senses. I do find myself, as I was mentioning money a bit earlier, that I do want to experience all the senses and what they can offer. And that’s through financial satisfaction too, because money can buy you things which can fulfil you and your next needs for life upgrades, such as moving in a new house, having new furniture, new clothes, a new lifestyle. A new you, physical and spiritual. Just, what I am striving to attain and what the colour choice white has pinpointed out to me.

I don’t know about you, but I am yet again, astonished by the profound understanding I am getting from knowing my colours, literally and figuratively speaking. 

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Photo Credit – Sam Harris – @hammy.sarris


1 week 0 bread

Yeast is a fungus. Yeast is found in bread. Consuming too much bread can have a negative impact on your health because, first of all, it is a carb, and carbohydrates transform in the bloodstream into sugar, which in turn, can cause issues to your overall health (taking that into account plus, nowadays, people have a desert after each meal, and in between meals as a snack, because, hey, stress and modern world, can you imagine how strong your body must be to be able to process so much sugar?). Sugar is the most toxic substance that exists out there for the human body and that we intake unknowingly. Therefore, reducing the sugar intake as well as being more mindful about consuming carbohydrates is my main priority. Because health is my main priority.

alisa-anton- my experience of eating no bread
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I used to be the type of human that consumed a bread in one day. I used to eat bread everyday, almost at every meal, although I have to say, I RARELY combined it with meat, as you might know by now, that’s something we should never do, because carbohydrates and protein cannot be digested by our stomach, due to different enzymes being involved in the process and when both eaten, the enzymes neutralise themselves, leaving the food in the stomach to rot, adding the yeast in it and all the other sugar cravings, you can imagine what a killing bomb there’s inside. Yeast is something we should avoid because it is a fungus. It is something that feeds itself out of the nutrients you have, leaving you unhealthy and craving for more sweets, as this is what it makes it grow and survive. I became conscious about this because someone in the family developed a sort of candida in the stomach and, that started to be visible on the surface of the body too. The physical beauty part, let’s just say, it’s not an issue, but that created more health issues inside the body. Mucus, infections, inflammation inside the body, which ultimately leads to other diseases. It’s so important to be mindful of the food you eat, especially how you combine it to make sure there is no way the food stays in your body undigested, to be able to actually use the nutrients from it and to have your health bloom, and not slowly, killing you from inside out. Discovering this, I immediately started finding alternatives to bread with yeast. Yeast free bread is usually the soda bread or the buttermilk bread or the sourdough bread, which is believed to be the best bread out there, due to its natural content of just water, flour and sourdough starter, which again is made of flour and water put together to ferment for a couple of days. Finding these alternatives on the market is extremely difficult. Big brands cannot invest in making sourdough bread as it is supposed to be created. Instead they add yeast to it and call it a sourdough bread. I find that deceptive and not to mention, the price they put for such a bread, which is ultimately not a sourdough bread, a lie, a marketing trick, a bullshit. So, what’s left, if you cannot find alternatives to really eat bread? Apart from making your own bread, which takes time and obviously we are all living a busy lifestyle in these modern days, well, the answer is: ditch it.

5 steps I am changing my lifestyle and health habits in 2018

This is what I did. I decided to stop consuming bread or any other yeast free breads that I could possibly find to be more healthy options, and I have to say, it was hard. The first few days, I felt hungry all the time. But, I did continue and after that week off, when my system adjusted to the “no bread mode”, or better, my brain, I ate a bit of bread from the one brand that I really loved and had no yeast, but it was a buttermilk soda type of bread, unfortunately not gluten free, but hey, that had a very, so very delicious taste.

What happened after that only one week of no bread after which I decided to eat a slice of my favourite bread? 

I did not feel the same way about bread as I did before. The taste did not feel as I felt it initially or before this experiment. I realised, bread is just another addiction and my brain was simply addicted to the taste, which after ditching it, it realised there is nothing special about it. It’s not something I cannot live without. It is not something I need on a daily basis.

It’s funny how after stopping eating bread for only one week, that my entire brain structure in reference to the bread taste changed completely. It’s incredible the impact it had on my life and it is incredible to realise that it’s actually the same with any other food addictions or maybe even other types of addictions. You may not even realise you have an addiction until you stop eating that product for a long period of time and then decide to have it once again, maybe as a treat, maybe just a little bit more or to start again consuming it. I promise you, you will never again have the same feeling or taste as you had initially. Period.

I stopped consuming bread for one week and this is what happened
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This can leave you either free of the burden of fighting with that addiction (known or unknown), whether it is chocolate, sweets, bread, carbs, whatever, or it may also leave you with a feeling of missing the initial feeling, the taste you tasted, that delicious thing that made you happy for a little while (which in its essence, it’s an addiction). Missing that feeling, in my opinion, can be seen in 2 ways: you are still addicted and if you miss that, you will probably end up consuming again the addictive product (and not in a mindful way) or you are mindful of the experiences and you start appreciating more the taste, which will make you more careful of how much you eat of a certain product and how exactly you feel about food in general. I find this one week no bread experience that it was more than just an experience of health and becoming more conscious about bread and its impact on my health. It was an experience of life. Giving up attachments will leave you free of the burden of actually having and hanging onto that attachment. It will leave you free to experience something else. It will create a different lifestyle, a different and better love of life, a sort of gratefulness and it does bring a more candid and kinder approach towards your self and ego. You become more aware of the differences between your ego and your self. You become more in touch with your higher self and start domineering your ego. You become more aware, more open to life and more mindful overall.

You realise you are more than just the food you eat. You get more in touch with your self. You become aware of the fact that you are not what your brain wants. You are not your brain or its addictions, you are not the same as your brain’s needs. You are a higher self that can manage its brain. And when you manage that, you are able to manage your whole life in the direction you want to go.

I stopped consuming bread for one week and this is what happened
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How I maintain a healthy eating lifestyle

Getting sick way too often is the main reason is making me stick to my healthy eating lifestyle and new habits that I have developed in the last few months. Having my immune system down all the time, my work influenced by not being able to attend to because I was ill, getting behind with tasks and having a low mood altogether was caused by the food I ate and how I related to my health. Even though I thought I was eating correctly and I was being healthy in my approach to food, it turned out, as my years have passed by and with it, a collection of flues and colds, getting more and more sophisticated in their approach to put me down in bed, that I was doing mistakes.

Huge Mistakes I learned from 

  • Eating sweets and sugary things (vegan or natural or organic also are included here) after main meals. This is a BIG NO NO to everyone that wants to make sure they are free from diseases. Eating sweets and sugar after a main meal, will create fermentation in your stomach, thus leading to fungus and the impossibility for the food to be digested and for the body to get the nutrients from the food intake. The main reason sugar must not be combined with anything at all, is first of all because of its effect as being toxic to the human body and on top of that, is not able to be digested if eaten with any other foods. I wrote more about the food combinations for proper optimal health here.
  • Eating too much sugar! Did you know the maximum intake per day should be 25 grams of sugar? Did you know that if you read the label of any vegan, organic, natural or even refined sweet, the smallest amount of sugar comes to 10 grams and that’s for a very small piece of sweet? A pack of 4 biscuits would normally have 48 grams of sugar. 48 grams in a small pack of biscuits! That’s nearly double the maximum daily recommended dose and that’s only at one meal! If you think about it, we are raised to believe we need desert after every meal. That’s a lot of toxicity to the body, which means that instead of having your body working to give you the nutrients from the food you ate, you force your body to chase the sugar to get it out of the system, failing to get the nutrients, as the body will use those nutrients to clean up the mess with the sugar. No nutrients left to give to you for your mood, health and skin! Getting sick all the time is one main reason you need to stop eating sugar. I learned it the hard way. 
  • Eating too much carbs in comparison to vegetables, greens and protein. Eating too much carbs and avoiding all the other food categories there is, means the same thing to the body as eating all day only sugar. The carbs are transformed into sugar in the human body, therefore you should avoid having meals hugely composed of potatoes, rice, cereals topped with protein and no vegetables. First of all, combining protein to carbs is something that will cause indigestion and in time, possibly candida, fungus, bacteria and diseases, and second of all, too much carbs. No vegetables taken to clean up the protein or to even clean the system in the body after that messy meal. I used to make these mistakes too, and I used to believe that that’s healthy and good eating, because that’s what our parents raised us with and they are healthy. But times have changed, our stress levels are higher, we spend less and less time in nature and more in the virtual world, not moving our bodies enough to even help it to remove all the toxins and erase the negative effects of the bad food combinations we make. That’s why it’s important to understand these food mistakes and avoid them at all costs. For your own health!
  • Not consuming vegetables or too little vegetables. This would show in your poo, and sorry for the TMI here, but you need to look that up on google and discover that it does say a lot about your health. Once you switch your diet to the right one, you will see improvements there too. Vegetables also help clean your liver, help with your skin, bring enough minerals and vitamins to maintain our health and are a MUST.

I am not saying you need to give up any foods, although I ditched some, but you need to find ways to eat them accordingly so they won’t influence you in a negative way.

Knowing all these facts, I am able to maintain a healthy eating lifestyle and keep my eating habits to mostly keto, vegan or vegetarian, depending on the days, sugar free, yeast free and gluten free as much as possible.

There is also a lot of information about eating according to your blood type. That has hugely impacted my lifestyle too, and definitely I can relate to how my body knows that I should not consume, as an example, milk or dairy in general. It seems the only exception is butter. When I read the information available at the time about the blood type food diet, I realised that indeed, my blood type does not allow dairy to be something suitable for my health or well-being. But it took me years to even realise that. And more years to actually ditch it. 

I also try to maintain a healthy eating lifestyle by incorporating in my diet lots of different vegetables. Lots of legumes and as much as possible vegetable or non-meat protein. I feel much lighter and focused, with a clear mind when eating this way. This works for me, it may not work for you, as you may have a different blood type and thus a different need to fulfil within your body and with your eating habits and I strongly encourage you to look up the information and read more about it.

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Use your kitchen when you eat, not your bed!

Eating, in my opinion, is not just a physical thing we need to do to have our bodies work properly and to carry our heads for as long as possible. It’s also a well being activity. Eating is part of the first line of Maslow’s pyramid needs that has to be fulfilled to carry us to the top, to become the best version of ourselves and to be able to reach the top need of Maslow’s pyramid needs. Therefore, I believe that if you eat as you should, combining the foods properly, eating what your body wants you to feed it with, your body will give you the energy you want to fulfil all your other needs. Step by step, until the top. So, as a well being activity, I maintain a healthy eating lifestyle by eating slow, being mindful of what I eat, how I eat, making sure I do sense the food, and I am not just eating it because I need to eat and fuel my body. Being mindful about the food, the taste, the texture, being present when I eat and only eating and not checking my phone, or watching a movie or browsing YouTube. Just eating and that’s all. I eat as if I am exercising. No other distractions. You experience a different mode and my well being definitely has developed into a more conscious choice to experience wellness. Wellness is not just in therapy or spa resorts. Wellness can be achieved with any small activity or task you do. Eating is such a trivial thing, but if you become mindful about it, your whole life will change. And that happens because our bodies and brains can only focus on one thing, putting all its energy there and getting the best out of the food we eat. At least, this is my opinion and it works for me.

I hope you get some inspiration out of all of this and start living your healthy eating habits in 2018!

Do you have any tips on how you maintain your healthy eating lifestyle? 

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