Birthday colors

A couple of years ago, I stumbled upon a website called Colostrology. Which no longer exists, but it was transformed into a book. Colostrology or your birthday color combines astrology with intuitive wisdom and the power of the color to create a personal color for each day of the month of the year.

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“There is a world of possibility contained in each day of birth. There are strengths and weaknesses and gifts and challenges. You have a sun sign and a ruling planet, and you belong to a particular element – fire, earth, air or water. Your birthday carries a numerological vibration that has a specific meaning. Each of these components shapes your personality and life experiences, and when combined, they create the personal colors on which Colostrology is based.” There are 365 personal colors. When the original website was still up, you only needed to search for your date of birth and see the color picked up for you. It may not be a color that you like, but it was designed to help you add it to your environment to help bring out the essence and meaning of you more into the world.

There are also monthly colors. The following are words taken from the book. This will determine you purchase it as you need to know exactly what does it say on your exact date of birth.

I have put it together with the names of colors, shade names from my previous article about the correct names of colors, in an attempt to see if they can be called differently. Some of them have slight differences, the shade is either too dark or too light, some, like caramel, I cannot find what to compare it with. Enjoy!

Caramel

January Color – Caramel – Practical, Determined, Builder 

The color for the month of January is Caramel. Logical and sure-footed, this is a color of substance and determination. After the exuberance of December, we are met with the practical and down-to-earth month of January. The earth tones in Caramel help us feel stable and responsible. This color encourages us to ground our earthly ambitions through discipline and persistence.

Sheer lilac

 

February – Sheer Lilac – Uplifting, Progressive, Detached

The color for the month of February is Sheer Lilac. Inspiring and imaginative, this color invokes the qualities of humanity and kindness. Sheer Lilac helps us comprehend the spirit of humankind and allows us to experience our friends and the people in our community as family. Use this color when emotionally entangled, for it can help you practice and understand detachment.

Fair Aqua

March – Fair Aqua – Intuitive, Subtle, Empathetic 

The color of the month of March is Fair Aqua. Dreamy and illusive, this color helps guide people between the conscious and subconscious worlds. Fair Aqua evokes the qualities of trust and clarity. Neptune, god of the oceans, presides over the month of March.

Cayenne

April – Cayenne – Fiery, Energetic, Courageous 

The color for the month of April is Cayenne. Fiery and energetic, this color signifies passion, strength, and courage. Mars, the ruling planet of Aries, governs the heavens during the month of April. We have just entered the spring season, during which there is a promise of growth and plenty, and everything is new and popping with excitement. This is a time for new beginnings and initiating action.

Bud Green

May – Bud green – Healing, Rejuvenating, Prosperous 

The color for the month of May is Bud Green. Vital and assuring, this is the color of stability and healing. Bud Green opens the heart and rejuvenates the spirit. The sun moves through the earth sign of Taurus during the month of May. This earthy quality is prevalent as the color green springs into action after the bleakness of winter and graces us with its presence. Bud Green gives us a balance of strength and substance.

Aspen Gold

June – Aspen Gold – Radiant, Intellectually Energizing, Uplifting 

The color of the month June is Aspen Gold. Energizing and activating, this is a color filled with radiance and light. Aspen Gold has the ability to lift out spirits and bring sunshine into our lives. Mercury, the planet of communication, moves through the heavens during the month of June. Yellow is known for stimulating the brain and increasing intelligence and mental agility.

Coral Blush

July – Coral Blush – Soothing, Receptive, Nurturing 

The color for the month of July is Coral Blush. Gentle and soothing, Coral Blush inspires love and receptivity. The moon rules the skies during the month of July and just as the moon goes through its phases and cycles, so do we. The silver in this color signifies the value of change, reflection and receptivity, and the pink represents love and tenderness. Together they make a color that can be used in times of change or transition and as an aid for emotional healing.

Sun Orange

August – Sun Orange – Regal, Inspiring, Powerful 

The color of the month of August is Sun Orange. Grand and royal, this is a color that resonates with power and greatness. Gold signifies both spiritual and material wealth. During the month of August the sun moves through the majestic sign of Leo, the sign that rules royalty. The brightness of this color dispels darkness and is especially helpful when you feel the need to protect yourself. It also assists in aligning you with riches, monetary support, and your position in life.

Baja Blue

September –  Baja Blue – Divine, Discerning, Artistic

The color for the month of September is Baja Blue. This is a divine and alluring color that resonates with beauty, purity and wisdom. Mercury and then Venus move through the heavens during the month of September. This is a time when our thinking and our appreciation of beauty is heightened. Baja Blue increases our breadth of scope. It can help ease tension and promote tranquility. This color opens the mind to higher concepts and a less limiting point of view.

Cerulean

October – Cerulean – Peaceful, Poised, Balanced 

The color for October is Cerulean. Calm and soothing, Cerulean signifies love, beauty and balance. Cerulean embodies the essence of peace and serenity while inspiring us to be strong and take decisive action. Venus, the planet that rules the month of October, governs love and beauty. This is a great month to enhance your physical appearance or beautify your surroundings.

Claret Red

November – Claret Red – Intense, Passionate, Transforming 

The color for the month of November is Claret Red. Intense and passionate, this color inspired depth, strength, and love. People during this month can see beyond the mundane and into the heart of others. This is a great color to use when integrating perception with a more lighthearted detachment. Claret Red helps you stay inspired as you build your dreams and ambitions.

Pagoda Blue

December – Pagoda Blue – Wisdom, Truth, Vision

The color for December is Pagoda Blue. Deep and meditative, this color signifies wisdom, truth and optimism. Pagoda Blue gives vision and trust to those who wear it. It is a great color to use while traveling or exploring. The color is a useful aid in dealing with others who have alternative points of view.

Do you have a different opinion as to which color could be the shade from the color thesaurus created by Ingrid Sundberg?

If you wish to purchase the Colostrology book from Amazon, click here

Happy Colorful Birthday! 

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Big Ideas simply explained

How the mind makes use of information gathered from the external world has been a major concern for philosophers and psychologists throughout history. Exactly how do we use the information gained through our senses? In the early 1970s cognitive and mathematical psychologist Roger Shepard proposes new theories of how the brain processes “sense data”. Shepard argued that our brains not only process sense data, but also make inferences from it, based on an internal model of the physical world where we can visualize objects in 3D. The experiment he used to prove this, in which subjects tried to ascertain whether 2 tables – each drawn from a different angle – were the same, showed that we are able to perform what Shepard called “mental rotation”: turning one of the tables in our mind’s eye for comparison. Perception, Shepard said, is “externally guided hallucination” and he described the processes of dreaming and hallucination as “internally simulated perception.”

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Until very recently, our perception of risk and the way that we make our decisions was considered to be more a matter of probability and statistics than psychology. When faced with uncertainty, people base their decisions on “rule of thumb” – on specific examples or small samples. Consequently, judgments can frequently be wrong, as they are based on information that comes easily to mind, rather than that has actual probability. We tend to overestimate the likelihood of things with low probability (such as a plane crash) and underestimate those with a higher probability (such as crashing while drink driving).

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What does all this mean?

First of all, perception is the main ingredient we require to gather the information and either make decisions or negotiate. We need specific tools to make sure our minds do not wander on different places than the correct path. In order for us to make better decisions, to negotiate, to understand how to handle different type of information, Mapology Guides have come up with new brain maps, brain tools to help us cope with the difficult task of making decisions and negotiating, which are the main activities of our day to day lives.

If you remember last year, I have written a blog post here, on one of their creative brain tools maps, What’s bugging you. 

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Because we are constantly on the lookout for causal connections, let’s use specific tools that will improve our cognitive journeys and enhance our positive marks into the practical world. The way we perceive the environment therefore can be guided. So let’s use something unique, creative and positive to do that.

Big Ideas simply explained mapology guides creative maps 3You can purchase your creative brain tools maps here!

Cover letter of UK Expats’ 1st interview

My first interview in the UK as an expat was due to the below cover letter. I hope you find some inspiration and motivation and self-confidence in your own worth.

To whom it may concern,

 As my resume details it, I have nearly 3 years’ worth of experience in designing learning content along with training materials and delivery of training, and I have gained it through my own personal freelancer project Map Your Future. I decided to do this, because after graduating in my country, I could only find jobs that would not suit my desire of working in the field of Psychology and Development, which I have studied. I am a serious, creative and open minded human being and I feel comfortable with teams and with fast paced projects, as I have worked in these types of working environments in admin, call centers and translating departments, that is why I know I am qualified to offer my knowledge, my skills, my ideas and my vision to your company.

Having worked in so many different type of activities, I have gained a skill that is not only helpful in the future, but also, in my opinion, vital to keep up with the fast forward moving society and technology and the need of alternate jobs to the different sort of needs for the society. That skill is called fast learning and adaptability and I am the happy owner of it. I like to read a lot, and create different contents for my blog, and through this, I am continuously learning and improving my skills, my knowledge and mostly my attitude.

I have decided to come to Belfast because I want to thrive in an environment where I can work with what I like, what I know to do and what can be of help to others. I feel like Belfast is a multicultural small city and after finding your announcement regarding the eLearning Designer position, I felt like this is the job I want. And it is!

I would like to also highlight the fact that I am interested in Psychology (which I have studied and continue to read on it), English, Education, Business Development, Marketing and Communications, and combining all my major interests in one job, a job that would require critical thinking, creative writing and synthesizing all that information into new learning materials, designing and explaining the concepts, then, you have definitely found the one to fill in the eLearning Designer position. Choose me, as I am very motivated in these areas and I would be very pleased to collaborate with you.

Finally, in all my previous work experiences, I had the chance of different challenges, career advancement and discovery, however, I know that nothing can be compared to working with what you are good at and what you love to do. I believe you will also thrive with what I can create and design for you, because I am very committed to my work and since I am a very creative person, I do not like to create “things” of which I am not proud of, or of which I do not feel it represents me. I strive for excellency. When I create, design, think, adapt and make something, I always see it as an expression of myself. And I like to offer something meaningful, helpful and enjoyable.

Please feel free to contact me for an interview, either by phone at ————— or by email at ———————- and you can meet me and discuss further.

Thank you for your time and your consideration,

Best regards,

Georgyana

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How to think like Sherlock Holmes

“Holmes was a detective second to none, it is true. But his insights into the human mind rival his greatest feats of criminal justice. What Sherlock Holmes offers isn’t just a way of solving crimes. It is an entire way of thinking, a mindset … a model for thinking, a way of being.” (Maria Konnikova)

how to think like sherlock holmes mindsetWhy it is important to learn to think like Sherlock Holmes?

The world we live is in binding us to become totally disconnected not just from our own selves, but from the people and from the way we treat the information we come across. We are mindless. We let out minds drift away, we cannot pay attention anymore and we are attractive the multi tasking forces in order to keep up. But, is this the answer? In recent years, studies have shown that meditation like thought for as little as 15 minutes a day, can shift bran states, and that looking at scenes of nature, for even a short while, can help us become more insightful, more creative and more productive. We also know that our brains are not built for multi tasking. When we are made to do multiple things at once, not only do we perform worse on all of them, but our memory decreases and our general well being suffers a lot. We live on, blindly unaware of how much we are missing, of how little we grasp of our own thought process and how much better we could be if only we would have taken the time to understand and to reflect. But it is not that we are not capable of doing so, it’s just that we do not choose to do it anymore.

“Think back to your childhood. Chances are, if I asked you to tell me about the street you grew up, you would be able to recall any number of details. The color of the houses. The quirks of the neighbors. The smells of the seasons. How different the street was at different times of day. Where you played. Where you walked. Where you were afraid of walking. I bet you could go on for hours. As children, we are remarkably aware. We absorb and process information at a speed that we will never again come close to achieving. New sights, new sounds, new smells, new people, new emotions, new experiences: we are learning about our world and its possibilities. Everything is new, everything is exciting, everything engenders curiosity. And because of the inherent newness of our surroundings, we are exquisitely alert, we are absorbed, we take it all in. And what’s more, we remember: because we are motivated and engaged, we not only take the world in more fully than we are ever likely to do it again, but we store it for the future. But as we grow older … we think: been there, done that, don’t need to pay attention to this, and when in the world, will I ever need to know or use that? Before we know it, we have shed that innate attentiveness, engagement and curiosity for a host of passive, mindless habits.

Ask yourself:

  • How many thoughts float in and out of your head without your stopping to identify them ?
  • How many ideas and insights have escaped because you forgot to pay attention ?
  • How many decisions or judgements have you made without realizing how or why you made them, driven by some internal default settings of whose existence you’re only vaguely, if at all, aware ?
  • How many days have gone by where you suddenly wonder what exactly you did and how you got to where you are ? We’ll take Holmes’s  methodology to explore and explain the steps necessary for building up habits of thought that will allow you to engage mindfully with yourself and your world as a matter of course. ” (Anna Konnikova)

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Here are 10 ways on how to think like Sherlock Holmes: 

1. Use your mind to scrutinize everything you encounter, an idea, an information, a knowledge, a gossip. One of the things that characterized Sherlock Holmes’s thinking was a natural skepticism and inquisitiveness toward the world. The truth is our minds are preset to accept everything they are given. First we believe and only after that we question.Reboot your mind and avoid assuming anything is the way it is. Think of everything by adding a healthy dose of skepticism. 2. Understand your brain’s bias and use it to be more organized in your thoughts and clear about the world. “Our minds love nothing more than jumping to conclusions.” The Affect Heuristic – how we feel is how we think. A happy and relaxed state of mind receives easily a certain information, it is influenced in the direction that the speaker wants you to be influenced to . The Availability Heuristic – we use what is available to the mind at any given point in time. As an example, when we meet a stranger, we immediately draw a impression on him/her based on our past experiences (including clothes, body language, appearance and language) and patterns of our mind on creating judgement along with the state of being in that specific day. We won’t be able to control every piece of information that our brains retain. But we can decide on which information we pay more attention based on the misconception perceptions that our minds work on.  3. Pursue your brain into going from the passive state of mind into the active state of it. What has influenced my first impression ? And consequently, has that first impression in turn influenced others ? The message is simple: never forget that an initial impression is only that, and take a moment to reflect on what caused it, and what that may signify for your overall aim. 4. Observation – knowing what and how to observe. This is why at this stage, we need the other 3 steps. Direct your observation in compliance with your scrutiny process, with your understanding of being active and skeptical not just about the world, but about your own mind too. What details do you focus on? What details do you omit ? And how do you take in and capture those details that you choose to zoom in on ? You don’t just take into your brain all details, you take it as organized and as clearly as possible. When you will need that information, you need to know how to search it. Choosing wisely means being selective. It means looking with the full knowledge that what you note – and how you note it – will form the basis of any future deductions you might make. 5. Filter the information you have, everything that you receive through the use of the above steps. Don’t let your lazy wandering default state of mind to think for you, as this is another bias of our brains. We need to tell our brains what and how to filter the data it receives from the world. How ? Read the next steps: 6. Be selective. We want to learn to pay attention better, to become superior observers, but we can’t hope to achieve this if we pay attention to everything. Quantity versus Quality. What we need to do is allocate our attention mindfully. Allocate your attention strategically, notice everything that it is important to the situation you are serving. Make the most of your limited resources, especially your attention. 7.Be objective. Understanding a situation in its fullness requires several steps, but the first and the fundamental rule is to realize that observation and deduction are not the same. Learn to separate the situation from interpretation, yourself (your thoughts, your emotions, from what you are seeing. Don’t jump to making a judgement immediately after observing. 8. Be inclusive. When we are being inclusive, we never forget that all of our senses are constantly in play. We don’t let them drive our emotions and decisions. Instead, we actively enlist their help and learn to control them. For instance, a smell (the olfactory senses are very powerful triggers of memory and emotions) may let you make a deduction based on your previous experience with that particular smell, affecting the judgement of the situation you encounter. Likewise,when we touch something cold or warm, we may become more cold or more warm in our disposition. If we are touched by someone in a reassuring way, we may suddenly find ourselves taking more risks or being more confident than we otherwise would. When we hold something heavy, we are more likely to judge something (or someone) to be weightier and more serious. None of this has anything to do with observation and attention per se, except that it can throw us off a carefully cultivated path without our awareness. The environment may influence us, we need to pay attention to it and never assume anything. 9. Be engaged. Your mind needs to be active, involved in what’s doing. When we are engaged in what we are doing, we persist longer at difficult problems, we experience the flow as mentioned in a previous article here, we become more motivated, we even become LESS likely to commit some of the most fundamental errors of observation such as mistaking a person’s outward appearance for factual detail of his/her personality. When you feel strong personal engagement with something, you will feel it is worth that extra push. 10. Imagination is the essential next step of the thought process. It uses the building blocks of all the observations that you’ve collected to create the material that can then serve as a solid base for future deductions. Imagination must come from a basis in real, hard knowledge, and it is a setup for deduction. The imagination, the creation is grounded in reality, everything that you have stored in your memory so far out of the consistent, detailed observations you have made.And bare in mind that in order to think more like Sherlock Holmes, you should deduce only from what you’ve observed and nothing more.The imagination process is helpful to bring you to the deduction process. Without imagination we would never be able to reach the heights of thought that we are capable of; we would find it difficult to use the facts we have in any way that would improve our judgement and decision making. Imagination allows us to see things that aren’t so. It lets us see what might have been and what might be even in the absence of firm evidence. When all of the details are in front of you, how do you re-arrange it ? How do you know which is important? Much of imagination is about making connections that are not entirely obvious, between elements that at first seem disparate.

Following Sherlock Holmes’s 10 steps to a more mindfulness state of being, we are less prone to stress, to making errors in our thinking process leading us to misconceptions, misjudgments and especially to mindless actions and behaviors

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Which of the 10 ways to how to think like Sherlock Holmes have you experienced so far?

10 surprising facts discovered from reading fiction

“Imagination should not be used to escape from reality, but to create it.”

This statement applies to fairy-tales too. They were never created to make us escape from reality, to make us dream at happy endings, although their purpose seems to be this one nowadays. Fairy-tales in fact, were never intended to children. Initially they were conceived as amusement for grown ups and in the 8th century they were put into scene in the select saloons of Paris. Fairy-tales began to be literature for children only in the 19th century, and they were modified a lot to be suitable for them.

10 surprising facts discovered from reading fiction

I would like to share with you 10 facts I discovered from reading fiction throughout my life so far. 1. Let’s begin with 1 interesting fact about reading fiction on 3 fairy-tales myths.

First- that they were intended to children. Which I have already explained- untrue. They were entertainment for the cultured elites. Second myth- fairy-tales were written by the Grimm Brothers. Actually, what they did, was to gather all the legends and the stories that they considered to be part of the Germans. Although they never technically had written any of the fairy-tales, they did change them to make them appropriate to children. In time, people began to believe that Grimm Brothers had been the authors of those stories. Third Myth- Fairy-tales teach us lessons. Fairy-tales have many attracting qualities but teaching lessons is not one of them. The reason they are catchy is that they represent an endless source of adventure. Beyond chasing and rescuing scenes, however, there is serious hidden drama that reflects events that take place in the child’s mind. As soon as we go beyond “Once upon a time….”, we discover that fairy-tales are about vanity, about being greedy, about being envious, about deceiving, about being lazy or about sexual drives.

When a child is listening to a fairy-tale he is projecting parts of his SELF through the different characters and uses them as deposits for his competing elements – the good and the bad. From one fairy to another the witch represents the unhealthy aspects of the SELF. In other words, fairy-tales represent a way of solving the conflicts between the good – the main character –  and the bad aspects – the witch – of the reader’s SELF.

For a fairy-tale to have a long-lasting effect on children, the main character has to experience the same emotions as the witch. For example, Snow White and the obsessive desire of the step mother to be the most beautiful in the world; children wish to be the most beautiful, the only one taken into consideration by their parents. The sin is vanity – and the child can relate to the witch. Children have to be tempted by the same temptations. Otherwise,  the “sin” might be seen as something only the witch is suffering from, something foreigner to the child. If children wish to win over their unhealthy and impulsive drives, the witch must die!

10 surprising facts discovered from reading fiction

Also, the reader must be assured the witch is dead, because if children do not interpret her death as something definite, they might assume she will reappear. And what’s the point in getting rid of if she will return unexpectedly? If the psychological objective of the story is to kill even the last piece of evil within the SELF, the witch’s death has to be complete and total, even if children are exposed to some violence.

For this reason fairy-tales do not claim to give answers, but they do tell children that there are important aspects to be taken seriously when the stake is the truth. That’s why fairy-tales exist. Not to make us dreamy and wait for the Prince on that White Horse or to think at a princess. “Imagination should not be used to escape from reality, but to create it.” In other words, fairy-tales are telling us that we can create our lives so that we can feel as princesses or as princes. For this reason, the witch must die!

Let’s kill the witch!

2.Reading fiction, and not just fairy-tales, makes you develop your empathy towards others because imagining creates understanding. There have been many studies conducted that highlighted the fact that imagining stories activates parts of our brains which help us understand others and see the world from a new perspective.

Not only this, but a lot of stories even have the potential to heal wounds and help the reader overcome different obstacles in life. Some therapists use healing stories to help their patients.

When we read about a feeling or a situation it’s like we are actually living the events we read about. It is easy for us then to relate to a character and learning that empathy, we easily apply it later in real life situations.

10 surprising facts discovered from reading fiction

3.Based on the fact that we enhance our empathy or even develop it if we lack it, another fact that I discovered from reading fiction is that it helped me find myself. When we read we discover our true emotions as they are expressed already by someone else. We then look at life how we would deeply actually think of, but social pressures have taught us how to hide that. We become free again and we develop an inner strength, amplifying what we actually believe in or wish for, and that will set us free. Because it gives us hope.

4. I also found out that reading fiction taught me how to approach obstacles. When we read about the characters that overcome different obstacles, we keep in mind that experience and their struggle. We read about their emotions with which we can deeply empathize and later on, we use that knowledge, that inner force to go beyond the challenges that life brings us. We change our perspective to life.

5.Reading fiction makes me happier. It’s the characters, it’s the stories, it’s the perspectives, it’s the fact that you discover that the world is so much bigger than you can think of, it’s the fact that you understand that life is a special journey and reading, truly, madly, improves your life. It helped me feel good because it’s like you are living more than you actually are, you experience so much more and it gives you a satisfaction over the fact that you feel blessed with your own life,  you do feel whatever you do in your life is worthwhile. It makes you happier and more grateful. I have a post on a special book that made me more grateful. HERE!

10 surprising facts discovered from reading fiction

6.Another surprising fact I discovered from reading fiction is penciled in the idea that my creativity improves, develops, gets a high note. Especially when reading diverse forms of fiction. Diverse books as well help with that. When the story depicted is different than the classic fiction. When fantasy, magical realism, surrealism, science fiction, drama, all these bring to light more ideas in my brain. More things that can happen and how they can happen. Reading fiction particularly has a successful effect on helping the reader imagine different perspectives for one situation, one that the reader lives, one that is heard at work, read in a newspaper or discovered at TV. Fiction reading is like eating an ice-cream in the snow. You freeze in time with that character, you become one with the story, sometimes wishing for a different story, but then you realize, you can create another one if you take yourself near a fireplace.

7. Based on the fact that your creativity enhances when you read fiction, you also become more tolerant and open-minded. Living through so many lives, you have the ability to understand, empathize and change your attitude towards a lot of aspects happening in your life and in the life of others. Reading expanded my range of experiences. It teaches you why you should open your mind. And partly that is happening because of the fact that reading fiction builds your empathy, the main ingredient for opening up your mind.

10 surprising facts discovered about reading fiction

8. Reading is most effective for stress. It’s actually the best at curing stress. Reading for as little as 6 minutes can reduce stress by 60%, slow heart beat, ease muscle tension and alter your state of mind. This links to number 5, that reading makes you happier. Because it gives you inner peace. Tranquility. How does this happen? Reading is like a pit-stop for our obsessive compulsive stressful train of thoughts about career, life, job, love life and all the other social pressures and stuff. Reading is like a bird song in a traffic jam. Unexpected. Pleasant. Disconnecting. Restful. Vibrant. Alive. Pure.

9. Reading fiction increases the use of other words. Mainly adjectives, phrases, different expressions. We all quote our different authors. It highlights your vocabulary. I mean, everyone knows that already. Check out the books that I wish and you will too to build up your vocabulary.

10. Reading fiction helps your brain stay in shape. It’s like brain fitness. Exercising with our minds is engaging more areas in our brain while at the same time providing tranquility and it helps with memory too.

I have a huge list of fiction and non-fiction books I want to read that appeal to me mostly.

Get inspired HERE!

10 surprising facts discovered about reading fiction

6 Neil Gaiman inspirational lessons to take in the 2017 New Year

Make Good Art was a speech that Neil Gaiman delivered for some graduates at an university back in 2012 and it was after that event, that it was put into a very beautifully designed book named Make Good Art that I read and even though its teachings refer to what it needs to be done to accomplish a good art in the arts field, I believe I can twist them and make them be valuable as a inspiration to take on for the 2017 New Year for anything that you wish to accomplish. Or for your New Year’s Resolutions’ tools to help you attain the goals you have set up to.

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First of all, Neil Gaiman says that “When you start a career in the arts you have no idea what you are doing” and that is an awesome aspect because if no one knows then there were no rules set up, and if there are no rules, then no one can tell you that something in particular it’s impossible because no one has went beyond any boundaries, since there were none discussed.

I would put that into whatever career you start, you have no idea where it is going to take you or if it is going to take you anywhere as nowadays every day a new career appears with the emerge of technology, social media and overall the internet. Therefore, even though there are specific rules for each job you take, it does not mean that you cannot innovate and try out things or recommend ideas. Be open to opportunities, but make sure to take those that take you closer to that career you seek. Which can change in the future as much as you change your path through those opportunities you take, that make you grow and thus, change your ideas of your career.

“If you don’t know it’s possible, it’s easier to do.” Neil Gaiman

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The second lesson is that if you know what you want to do, then just go ahead and do it. #justdoit right? Neil Gaiman discussed that in the field of arts it is hard to establish a balance between what you want to achieve and what it is correct to do taking into account that you need to pay debts, rent, food and life in general and at the same time, work on your creative dreams. What the author mentions worked for him was to imagine he was walking towards a mountain that was his dream and if at any point in time, he would be uncertain about what he should do, he would then stop and ask himself if that road it taking him closer to the mountain and taking him away from the destination. That links to the first thing to be open to opportunities but pay attention not to be diverted to someone else’s mountain when taking specific opportunities. This applies to all jobs and all life events, not just in the creative fields.

The third lesson is the one that we encounter in every book, with any motivational or inspirational figures out there, and that relates to dealing with failures, resilience, self-esteem and confidence in what you do that it will work out.

“The problems of failure are problems of discouragement, of hopelessness, of hunger. You want everything to happen and you want it now. And things go wrong.” Neil Gaiman

Neil Gaiman advised us not to do anything just for the money as it will turn out we will not have anything else apart from the experience of the money, usually spent or maybe not received.

He says “nothing I did where the only reason for doing it was the money, was ever worth it”.

There are always problems of success. Sometimes you take on jobs that you not necessarily like, but they pay the bills and you start creating a comfort zone, a lifestyle that you cannot give up because it won’t be able to be paid by what you actually want to work. Neil Gaiman shares the following: “the biggest problem of success is that the world conspires to stop you doing the thing that you do, because you are successful”.

The forth lessons connects with the previous ones, because it is connected to failure. ” I hope you make mistakes” it’s Neil Gaiman’s message. Because it means you have tried and you have learned something from it to take on in the future. It means you have tried what you wanted to try and you will have no regrets.

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“Fifthly, make your art.” Neil Gaiman

Do that thing that you are passionate about and that only you can do. You are unique and your passion will thrive if you put your skills up to work it out. There is no one else in the world like you to do it and have the success that you can have. I want to share with you another paragraph that I found very inspirational and motivational to keep going on and to follow that passion you have:

“The moment that you feel that, just possibly, you’re walking down the street naked, exposing too much of your heart and your mind and what exists on the inside, showing too much of yourself. THAT’S THE MOMENT YOU MAY BE STARTING TO GET IT RIGHT.” Neil Gaiman

Lastly, the sixth lesson to take in the 2017 New Year is that you need to have 2 of the following 3 traits in any passion you follow and in any job you apply for:

  1. Your work is good
  2. You are easy to get along with
  3. You deliver your work on time

2 out of 3 is fine 

because:

  • “People will tolerate how unpleasant you are if your work is good and you deliver it on time.
  • They’ll forgive the lateness of your work if it’s good and if they like you.
  • You do not need to be as good as the others if you’re on time and it’s always a pleasure to hear from you.” Neil Gaiman, Make good art 

At the end of the speech and of the book, because I read the book, Neil Gaiman shares the best advice he had ever received and it was from the Sandman’s book written by Stephen King that says:

“This is really great. You should enjoy it.”

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Enjoy your journey to your destination. Being too much worried will take that joy and that’s ultimately what matters, that you have lived each day consciously. In the present, Now. 

How to stop procrastinating right now

I believe the reason I procrastinate is that I compare myself to other people, to their achievements and to their lives. Because of that, I instantly feel that what I want to put out there is less important, less creative, less attractive, less helpful or meaningful and enjoyable, which if you have been around for a while, you already know I strive to showcase through these posts.

I procrastinate most of everything that I have a to-do-list for. Exercising. Figuring out what I want to be in life. An organized status of my posts. A blog post. My Instagram account. My social media presence. My reading list.

I never procrastinate on the next New Youtube video from someone I follow. I never procrastinate on chocolate. I never procrastinate on going to work, to the monotonous stressful job as a call center representative. I never procrastinate on stuff that I got accustomed to to do. So then, that leads me to the next thing.

It means I need to start new habits. But then if I am going to do a to-do-list for that, it is obvious what it will end like. I actually do have a #goals for that as well. Therefore, I will simply just do it. I will start letting the universe I have envisioned in my head to create on this blog, flow by itself. Because saying that I have the writer’s block, is another form of procrastination.

“Houston, we have got a problem!” my mind starts anxiously. FEAR.

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Fear that you are making a mistake. Fear that you let too much of yourself seen or read. Fear that you will be judged. Worse: fear that you will not be liked for what you put out there. Fear that you are not meaningful. Fear that you are not enjoyable. Fear that you are not what people look for to read. Fear that you will embarrass yourself. Fear that someone at work might see this. Fear that you will be seen as a weirdo. Fear that you are an open book. Fear that you can get hurt. Fear that you will feel ashamed. Fear that this is useless. Fear that it will not take you anywhere and it is a waste of time, in the end. Fear you will fail. Fear that I will disappoint. Fear that people will see me different after this but in a negative way, and I bet you know what I mean. Fear that I would lose respect. Feel that I am not in control. 

Fear that I will be vulnerable.

But then I believe that all those fears are actually another form of comparing myself with other people’s content and creative expression and their positive feedback. If other content creators, storytellers or creative writers or bloggers that I enjoy going through their writing receive such beautiful responses, and I too, believe they are doing an awesome job, then it means that my thoughts are less whatever I think of others’content because I actually secretly wish my content was as exceptionally creative and wonderfully put into words, poetic and alluring as theirs. I want to be them.

Why do I feel I need to copy someone else’s work that I think of as beautiful?

Because I see in others what I see in myself. Other people are our mirrors. There is a reason behind the saying “Birds of a feather flock together.” Understanding this, I see now that everyone I follow on social media, every book I read and I like, every blog content that I feel unique and different and creative and I love it is actually a part of me.  It is something that was said or done and that was something that I might have done as well or thought as well, if I had that voice online. That’s the whole secret of getting followers. You get what you are.

Numbers. 

I have always had great grades. But it was the quality that got me those grades. I want numbers, but I want it in quality. I am not looking for brand deals, as there are way too little brands I actually buy. I am more of a minimalist. But I do have a lot of thoughts and ideas and words and things to say.

And I fear that what I want to say it is not what people consume these days. I fear failure as everybody does. I fear I might say stuff that it is stupid and that will make people think something about me that I did not even consider when expressing myself. Do not get me wrong, I too consume Youtubers, blogs and online information that is artificial. It’s just shiny on the outside. It has no substance. But I know what I actually consume from that blog. I like the style, the architecture of the blog, the photos, the lights, the colors, the vibes, the mood created, the inspiration. Sometimes even the material stuff: dresses, jewelry, scarves, products, STUFF.

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All that stuff that we like and wish for, is a way we use to display our personalities and ourselves into the world. It is a way of creating our personalities as much as it is constructing our lives and it sometimes clutters it.

If I like that scarf, that ring, that phone, that book, that bike, that skincare brand or that ideology or organic, natural, ecologic, minimalist, then it means I want to associate myself with that to express myself and to create myself. To love myself. As I will be able to say about myself that I am this and that. Which instantly boosts your self esteem and it makes you feel good about yourself.

It makes you feel good about yourself when you portray a certain image you have created in your head you want to like. Based on your idol, based on your favorite youtuber, based on your mother, based on a lifestyle, based on a designer’s piece of clothing. You are all that stuff.

However, I have realized that even though that helps, and it is not necessarily a bad form of pinpointing your mark into the world as long as you do not exaggerate with it and you only live to accumulate things, I find that also this need of social media presence is the same thing. You want to attract numbers, people that like you to highlight what you already know deep down in a way or maybe you don’t. Who knows.

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I will not lie, I dream of big achievements. Because those are the people I follow and enjoy. I want comfort, money, abundance, but I also need and desire health, spiritual enlightenment, personal development and becoming myself that which I want to give you through my posts: become a meaningful, helpful and enjoyable person.

I am already. My ego does not wish to keep to herself. She wishes that I become this worthwhile human being that left a positive mark on the Earth to other human beings. Maybe even to inspire them to become something like that as well.

So, without any other plans, I am releasing my energy into the universe through what I write. I hope to inspire you in some way! And I hope you will be a part of this somehow… I mean this is how I have stopped procrastinating. Thinking too much of a content and a way to put it out there. Just do it. 

That’s my new habit: JUST DO IT!

P.S. Dear Universe: I am open to your opportunities. Bring them on!

attract abundance

 

 

How to appreciate your life

Anxious about work, anxious about home, anxious that I need to figure out who I want to be and who I am, what I like.

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Anxiety can take many forms. It can make you search frantically online for information, it can make you try to collect different things, it can make you analyze things too much, it can make you not stay still, it can get you away from your inner self, it can make you obsessive compulsive with social media and it definitely takes away your tranquility.

It’s like a disease. No, an epidemic lifestyle.

I have a cure. A book. I was reading Pond by Claire Louise Bennett and I experienced a elevated mood rapidly because I got immersed in the style of the writing. It is exquisite. It sets you to stay still and listen to the words whispered through the beautifully written pages. It moves you into its direction: a peaceful, tranquil lifestyle. A love for being in the moment. For living the life you were given. For being curious with everything that it exists.

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It made me so at peace that I really believe it stopped the long train of thoughts I had about all things in my life. If you choose to read it, I believe you too will be mesmerized by the way it makes you accept your life and love it. It will teach you how to appreciate everything you have. Everything you are.

It will be like a warm bath with candles, along a book and lovely flowers that spread their fragrance of life and color and it will haunt you long after you have put it down with its simplicity, yet refined writing style, with its delicacy, yet bold affirmations of life.

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It will absorb your soul with its elegant creative writing and it will quiet your anxiety with its luxurious lush shapely cocktail of words that form a distinct universe in your mind, putting your agitation to do something or look for something to rest. Mental clarity is achieved and the inner turmoil accompanied when you experience anxiety will feel has diminished with the same speed the light travels through time. That’s how Pond will make you travel. In line with life, in line with NOW.  

 

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The 100% Swiss Story

I used to work a lot in TeleSales.

The best part of it (working in tele sales), is that, some clients will blow your mind with their strange stories and strange logic. I, on behalf of my company’s name, offer to different businesses across Europe, packaging solutions.

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One day, I called a Swiss company that makes chocolate. The manager that I was talking to, from the very beginning, kept on arguing on why they do not need new suppliers or , in short, why he is frustrated with my disturbing phone call and he kept on having what I like to call a “prepared sweet saying NO answer”. Destiny made it such way, that previously with one day, I had read a serious information about our minds. That it is flat, in the sense, that when we are asked certain questions, to which we do not know the answers, we create the answers, we manipulate certain bits of information gathered in time, stuff that we recall, and based on this amalgam of non-sense, we create a logical answer to offer. The trick is that we believe it is true, even though it isn’t. We have a memory and we probe with what we see and we get a mismatch. Then, our minds try to overcome the limitations, by creating a sense in the mismatch, by adding something up, by making it up to have a sense.

The mind is an improviser. It’s faced with a problem and it figures out a solution. It is not actually looking inside itself. It’s cooking up a reason, an answer, it improvises.Having had that in mind, I asked my client a question that annoyed him so much that he ended up the conversation with a visible heard irritation in his voice, as if, he got caught.

What happened? His first reason to make me hung up the phone, was that they work with suppliers that are very close to them as it is good for having the packaging quickly made. I took the time to ask him what is their production time, and he replied something between 6 and 8 weeks. Then, I said:

-We can manufacture your packaging in 3 weeks (for the first order) and in 2 weeks (for repeat orders) and we have a one week delivery time. You can have it faster than your current supplier  and with no obligations to buy a certain amount of packaging, as most packaging companies do

-No, no, you see… We want to work with local suppliers, we have good relationships and we have been doing business for a long time, you know?, my client mumbled

-We have very good relationships with our clients too, and would like to be long term with you also.

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Then, he interrupted my “sale speech” and stated very proud of himself, as if this is the ultimate characteristic that my company could not offer him.

-We only work with Swiss suppliers. We have the ingredients and materials for packaging, everything from Swiss companies. We want the product to be totally Swiss, I mean 100% Swiss, because we have standards.

And I started my quest to find that “logical” answer he was going to offer to me. I asked him in a certain naive way, very curious and as if, I did not understand:

-But the Swiss suppliers for ingredients … I mean, they cannot produce cocoa in Switzerland. They buy the ingredients from Switzerland, all the ingredients, and materials?

The thing is, that he did not see it coming, because, he was focused on saying NO to me.

-No, no, of course not, they buy it from all over the world, from where they get the best prices, as you think you are offering me now, you see, they buy from the best parts of the world for the best ingredients.

-Ok, so you buy the ingredients and probably the materials from packaging from all over the world ?

-Yes, well not us personally, our suppliers, of course, and we only work with these Swiss suppliers, I told you.

-But then it is not 100% Swiss chocolate, as you want it to appear for people or for your distributors.

-So, that is our suppliers thing, we have a standard to work with Swiss companies and make it 100% Swiss, he answered to me quite irritated that I dared to say that.

-But that it is not 100% Swiss! I replied smiling.

-Well, miss …  he was trying to mumble something. And

He hung me up. Obviously.

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A lot of the pictures we have in mind is not a perfect picture of what we actually see. We construct a lot on what we see, we are putting up together information to make it logic, to overcome the limitations we encounter in our way. My client had seen me as a limitation, as an obstacle to his perfect ending day probably. His mind wanted out, I wanted to keep him in with job matters. He would not listen, so his mind was doing everything that it could to deny everything and help him get out. It became logical to him to explain his reasons, as if it was clear that I do not represent a Swiss company, so I will leave the spot. And I didn’t. Instead, I told him through my questions, that his reasoning is twisted and I implied to him, it is a stupid thing to say No.

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I am wondering how many times, haven’t we invented reasons, logical answers to different situations life put us, and we answered the same way: denial, NO, hung up, shut the door.  How many times had we reasoned ourselves about our jobs ? About our paths ? About our 100% story.

It makes me wonder about the many 100%, that it appears in different areas of our lives, how much of it is really what it is told to be ?

How much of your 100% is committed, is loyal, is creative, is serious, is everything else that we state about ourselves ? And if it is not 100%, what is the rest of it made of ?

What is it that you are 100% and what is it that you are not ? Do you think it impacts in any way, your present life, or had impacted you so far, to get to where you are or where you want to go ?

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The art of living consciously

I have listened to an audio book created by Nathaniel Branden, named “The Art of Living Consciously” and I would love to share with you some of its inspirational and motivational insights.

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First of all, in order to live more consciously we need to become aware of the contradictions that happen between our values and our behaviors. The author inspires us to choose sight over blindness, as we become better when we correct our mistakes than when we pretend they did not happen. As one of my favorite authors points it out:

“Facts do not cease to exist just because we choose to ignore them.” Aldous Huxley

Living consciously in an authentic self esteem requires eagerness to discover one’s errors and requires candor about admitting it.

As Maslow pinpoints it:

“There are no perfect human beings.”

If he said that, then we should not focus on trying to achieve perfection. We need to highlight the greatness and uniqueness that can be found within ourselves. We have all been blessed with gifts to share with this world. We simply need to discover those gifts inside our soul and choose to be open about it.

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I have discovered there are 2 traits we hold within ourselves. That is the optimalist who embraces the reality exactly as it is, including its not so good parts (the optimalist knows and he is fine with the fact that reality is not perfect AT ALL) and there is also the perfectionist that denies completely the reality and chases an impossible idea of mistake free perfectionism. These 2 aspects coexist within ourselves and we shift from one to another, depending on the situations we encounter and live in.

The challenge is to move from the situational perfectionism to the overall attitude of optimalism. As Carl Rogers invites us to think about it:

“The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction, not a destination.”

Another highlight would be to focus more on doing what works and less on what it does not work. One of the ideas of living consciously is to pay attention to what works and be captured by the principle in such way that you are able to multiply it and expand it to other situations and you are then able to do more stuff that works.

What do you do that really works for you? 

What is it that you do and it makes your life flow? 

What do you do that does not work for you? It is another important question to think about.

So the most important questions in this book are:

  1. What’s the number one thing that I can start doing consistently that would have the most positive impact on my life ?
  2. What is the number one thing that I can stop doing and that would have the most positive impact on my life ?

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Happiness is the experience of climbing the peek. So enjoy your road. That is why it is important to chose a road you like, a road you feel you would work hard on to reach a certain destination. But because the journey is long, you must enjoy yourselves during it and you must enjoy the road. Choose wisely, as you may not have time to go back the road and choose another path.

There is a very specific lesson I heard about in this book – that is – Be nice to yourself. When you are chasing perfectionism in everything that you, you tend to be ruthless on yourself, to punish yourself or postpone a certain kindness you wanted to treat yourself with. That is why it is important to give up perfectionism and focus on loving who you are now (as everything that happened to you so far, defines you) and be nice to yourself.

There are many books and many articles about surrendering your ego, about dissolving it as it hurts us.

I do not agree with it. (Click me!)

Freud said that the mind is divided into 3 parts: the ego (the conscious rational self), the superego (the conscious sometimes too rigid, committed to the rules of society part of the self) and the id (the desire for pleasure)

The ego is the driver that balances the lusty impulses of the id with the overbearing conditioning of the superego. In this metaphor (the horse ridden by a human with his father behind) the ego is the man, the id is the horse and the superego is the father, therefore a healthy ego is an absolute requirement to being a healthy fully functioning human being. Why ? Because if the man does not pay attention to the horses impulses to run and to his fathers overwhelming signs of how to ride the horse, how to make it obey without enslaving the horse, the man would not be able to ride it. We need to balance our impulses and our rigid thinking about our impulses. For this we have to strengthen the ego, not to dissolve it. 

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To strengthen our egos, we should be more kind to ourselves. We should say thank you to ourselves more often (Kindly listen to this song here to love yourself more and be grateful for who you are now), we should be more engaged in our commitment to truly appreciate what we can do. As I would put it, through Maslow’s pyramid needs, in order to self realize yourself, you need shelter, food, water, a job, and then, you will be safe enough and clear enough to consider how to fulfill your life and help others do the same. You cannot ride a horse if you have a wounded leg or if you need food to have energy to ride it. As a comparison, you cannot teach someone to swim if you do not know how to.

That is why it is important to be good to yourself. If not you, who then ? 

The last important lesson of this book is to understand that your life, your time on this Earth is important.

The realization of what is noble within you is the ultimate goal you can achieve. That is self-realization.

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There is nothing you can do that is more important than being fulfilled. You become a sign, you become a signal, transparent to transcendence. In this way, you will find, live and become a realization of your own personal myth.

Start now and answer the two questions – and follow the above guidelines to become more aware of living consciously. You will enjoy this article as well to enhance the information you just read.