What truly makes me feel accomplished, successful and happy

I remember working for someone many, many years ago and reaching a point when I received a sort of promotion in the form of more money towards my salary. Even though I appreciated receiving more for the work I was putting in, because I did deserve it, as I am extremely reliable, serious and hard working, that did not make me happier or feeling more accomplished or believing of myself to be successful. And that’s because success to me translates to something totally different than what might signify to you or to other people.

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I find success to be something personal and the word itself means something different to another person. Even to you, reading this out, success might come in the form of a huge following online, getting lots of clients or customers, achieving a specific level up, going up in the walk of life or simply more money, more power to buy certain things or services.

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I realized that this definition we all have for success comes from our core values and our character strengths. Every single one of us is different and we all have different values and character traits and strengths. A couple of years ago, when discovering the positive psychology field, I read the basics of it and where it all started and that was through Martin Seligmans books. One of them explored the idea of the science of our characters and a survey he created along with late Dr. Christopher Peterson, changed my world.

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I discovered that what would make me happy in work so that I can tell the world the well known affirmation I am successful, accomplished and happy with my life is made up of 6 character strengths put into 4 core values categories. Understanding these concepts, makes it easier for me and for you as well, if you would like to take the survey (VIA classification survey) to cope with your personal story of the meaning of success and to be happy in life.

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These character strengths I owe are as follows: ranking first place – appreciation of beauty and excellence, second place, creativity, third place honesty, forth place, love, fifth place judgement and sixth place love of learning. These concepts which in their own significance explain so much more about what success and happiness in life is, make me who I am and how I am. Appreciation of beauty and excellence is something I work with through my blog, through all the small (or large) businesses I follow and enjoy shopping from as beauty is not just being beautiful, beauty is something from within too, beauty is being eco friendly, beauty is shopping ethically, beauty is being kind, compassionate, beauty is spirituality and appreciation of art, nature, music, writing, dance, everything that is beautiful in my own realm of beauty. And if you have this character strength, then whatever you are attracted to, that is your way of displaying appreciation of beauty and excellence. I find excellency comes from that beauty, as beauty is something close to perfection and perfection is very hard to attain, it is connected to doing your best in everything you do to obtain that excellent job. And that is beauty too. I am sharing my appreciation of beauty and excellence in this post here. Find out what I appreciate, follow and to whom I would like to collaborate, who inspires me and what composes my human nature and being.

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Creativity is my second character strength and something I need to use to be happy with the work I put. Growing up, I always attempted to learn how to be creative and to actually display creativity and to make sure I would become a formidable human being, much like an artist that changes the world, failing to recognize that I am already creative and you are too. We are all creative already. Doing exercises to improve or enhance or boost our creative natures is helpful and advisable especially for the brain, that always seeks new food, however, exercising it needs to go more on the side of practicing rather than just reading about it. I like to be creative. I like to do things in a different way, I find this is something that makes me stand out. That forces me to be put into the light. But I want to be creative not for the sake of it, rather to bring something useful, meaningful and enjoyable to humanity too. Maybe this is why I am writing on this blog, maybe this is why I studied psychology and have always wanted to work in a field of psychology that is new, different, more creative and have always found that positive psychology is something I am passionate about, ecopsychology is a new field I am interested in, graphotherapy, which I find extremely useful and easy to put into practice or color therapy that is so wonderful to work with, art therapies and everything in this modern world that is innovative, such as video therapy or the blooming of Virtual world and devices, that will probably come up with a way to do virtual therapy too. I am all into that. Love is and would be something I would look forward to contribute with. And to do that, I have the other character strengths to help with, one of which would be the love of learning and judgement. These last 2 concepts are valuable to me just as much as all the others are, because I am a life long learner and I enjoy finding new things out, I discover that this trait makes me very open minded. Being open minded is very important for the present time and it will be for the future as well, because lots of innovations will come to us and we need to be open to learning and to judge its need into our own inner worlds. Judgement is a character strength I currently work with actually, because I am working in the Fraud Department in a call center, and this along with the other core strength which ranks third, that is honesty, is making me resist in the job I do, even though it is a call center. Honesty is also connected to appreciation of beauty and excellence. Excellence can only be attained through honesty, through love. Love of people and of truth. And then we end up this self centered speech (although sometimes, we need to be self centered to make sure we do know ourselves and we are able to find out right place in this world) with my most important character strength that I do not believe finds much place in the workplace, rather in my personal life, which is love. Family life is the one that matters mostly for me and love is needed for me to maintain my balance, my purpose, my vision. And love is included into appreciation of beauty and excellence as well, because it can speak of humanity, of spirituality, of wisdom, of life. What would life be without love?

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The core virtues are composed by all your character strength and they mention a notion that encompasses it all under one name. My core virtues are transcendence, wisdom, courage and humanity. What does this mean? It means that under these names falls everything that will make me happy, will make me feel successful, will make me feel and be accomplished. I am working on all these aspects, and based on Martin Seligman’s approach, if you work with only 4 of your character strengths (at your current job), you will feel happy in work and ultimately that brings happiness into your life, as you feel successful since you are working with your character strengths. With your strengths, which I believe show your passions, show where your talents are and portray your vision of life, and maybe your mission, if you dig deeper.

What are your character strengths and do you use them in your work life? 

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The enchanted forest

Remember those fairy-tales where trees could walk, talk and feel? They might be based on real life! I am currently reading The hidden life of trees which feels exactly as Tim Flannery (introducing the book) describes it: a wonderland. The author, Peter Wohlleben works in the lumber industry and manages a forest with the purpose of harvesting it for commercial gain. His insights and his discoveries about trees have shaped the content of The hidden life of trees and reading it, you will feel once again, you do not know a thing about the universe or the world we all live in. At least, that is what I have learned from its teachings.

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Once again, nature and research on nature have proved that Mother Earth has so much to teach us. As Shakespeare wrote:

“Keep these flowers. We’ll see how close art can come near their colors.”

Reading Peter Wohlleben’s work you will feel we must preserve nature as there is nothing else more important than our environment. Nature is wise. Nature is what we are made of and nature can shape our existence once more, for if, there is no more trees, there is no more life. I find the discoveries of this enchanted forest (as this is how it feels when you read through the truly hidden life of trees) are such an amazement that you will find yourself surprised and humbled by how little we care about the world we live in. Another quote from Shakespeare pops my mind:

“Our bodies are our gardens, to the which our wills are gardeners.”

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Forest trees communicate between themselves to make sure they act in unity, because if they would not do that, there would not be a forest anymore. A forest is made up of all trees in it. It is a community that feeds itself, that takes care of the weakened trees, that protects and makes possible the biodiversity in it, it is a community that knows how to act in accord to maintain the balance and to grow strong. A forest tree knows how to speak to other trees as this is what parent trees teach their children. Yes, trees have children and they grow by their parents side. Upbringing is a special process through which the child tree is not let to grow at the speed of light, rather it is deprived of it, because a tree that grows slow is a tree that will live longer. Have you heard of that lifestyle in which if you eat less, you live longer? It works for trees! Another surprising knowledge is that planted tree forests (so not wild forests) are incapable of networking with one another because their roots are irreparably damaged when they are planted.

Crops need pesticides and all those chemicals because they cannot communicate with one another and cannot inform themselves of the dangers that awaits them as trees do in forests. Forest trees can use scent or wind to attract specific predators for the predator that the tree has. It can signal this to the neighboring trees and it can plump toxins in the leaves that are eaten by predators so that they stop eating them. Because of this communication, the other trees understand the risk and take caution measures which in turn, protects the ecosystem because they are no longer threatened. When they do not react, the trees are harmed. If all trees were harmed, then there would not longer be a forest. Unity is creating community. Wouldn’t that be brave of us to do the same thing? Another fascinating, if not close to sci-fi fact, is that the saliva of each species is different, and trees can match the saliva to the insect. The match is so precise that the tree can release pheromones the summon specific beneficial predators. The beneficial predators help trees by eagerly devouring the insects that are bothering them.

Do you have any remembrances from the creepy forest Snow White ran to, when she was let alive?

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When Snow White ran through the forest, it appeared to become hostile towards her; an owl screeches at her, trees resemble leering faces, branches become talons snatching at her dress and floating logs become crocodiles snapping at her heels. After collapsing in fright, Snow White encounters the forest animals, and the forest seems less scary to Snow White, now that she has friends with her. The forest might feel creepy because it must protect the biodiversity and the ecosystem in it. If it feels someone is trying to destroy that harmony, it will react. Sure, Snow White was just a fairy tale, but, we all know where this leads to. Forests can be threatening and they should be. They are maybe protecting our future from our current mistakes.

The fungal connections at the bottom of forest trees transmit signals from one tree to the next one, helping the trees exchange news about insects, drought and other dangers. In the symbiotic community of the forest, not only trees but also shrubs and grasses and possibly all plant species exchange information this way. However, when we step into farm fields, the vegetation becomes very quiet. Thanks to selective breeding, our cultivated plants have, for the most part, lost their ability to communicate above or below ground. Isolated by their silence, they are easy prey for insect pests. Another reason for which we should stop destroying wild crops and for taking care of the wild vegetation.

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Trees synchronize their performances so that they are all equally successful. We should all stop being so competitive at work and work for a common purpose. This is what I am getting from the tree’s wisdom. The trees are equalizing differences between the strong and the weak. Whether they are thin or thick, all members of the same species are using light to produce the same amount of sugar per leaf. This takes place through the roots and fungi are involved as their enormous networks act as gigantic redistribution mechanisms. When trees grow together, nutrients and water can be optimally divided among them all so that each tree can grow into the best tree it can be. Isn’t this beautiful? Sharing is caring! Reproduction at trees is planned at least one year in advance. I will let you pick the book and read about their love stories.

When trees are really thirsty, they begin to scream. This takes place at ultrasonic levels. Scientists recorded this and discovered a specific vibration that occurs in the trunk when the flow of water from the roots to the leaves is interrupted. The trees might be screaming our a dire warning to their peers that water levels are running slow.

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There is so much more information and fantastical data and facts in this book that I feel it is an urgent read for all 7 billion people that we are on this planet. In this way, we would be able to see the impact wilderness has on life, on our life. Without the wild communication that exists out there, there would be no air, for forests provide oxygen. There would be no diversity in our ecosystems. There would be no fruits or vegetables. Remember reading about that enchanted lovely wonderful forest in our fairy tales when we were children, wishing we could speak to trees and be there to live the dream? The magic is real and we do live in an enchanted forest. We just need to open our eyes and our minds.

 

Dr. Bach Flower Remedy Therapy

Enter the world of the most efficient nature therapy!

I have discovered Dr. Bach flower therapy remedies back in 2008-2009 when I was in search of a course to take to improve, enhance and help with my psychology studies. I recently finished Module 1 of Dr. Bach Flower therapy remedies and even though this type of therapy has been around for so many years now, there are few people who know of its existence and who even think of using it.

There is no need for more explanations for the benefits of nature, of plants, of herbs, of flowers. I have already mentioned about it in various posts, such as this one.

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Dr. Edward Bach trained and qualified at University College Hospital and gained the Diploma of Public Health at Cambridge in the early 1900s. He was mostly interested in the patients themselves, than in their diseases.

He believed and it is true, that the body is a mirror reflecting the thoughts in the mind. It was the sufferer himself, the person, who needed treatment and help to overcome his worries, his fears, his depressions, hopelessness.

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Dr. Bach always believed that our physical health depends on our way of thinking, our feelings and our emotions. Good health is harmony, rhythm, when we think happily, positively, constructively. Ill-health is when we think negatively, unhappily, destructively.

Dr Bach flower therapy remediesDr. Bach came into contact with Hahnemann, the founder of homeopathy, who said that the patient is the most important factor in the process of healing. Homeopathic remedies were prescribed and still are for the personality of the patient, his characteristics, his idiosyncrasies as well as the physical symptom.

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Dr. Bach concluded through his later examinations and treatment of patients that physical disease was not of physical origin, but as he mentioned it “was the consolidation of a mental attitude”.

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Dr. Bach discovered 38 flower remedies and each one of them is aimed at a different state of mind or emotion. They do not treat physical illness directly, but by restoring harmony to the mind they allow the body’s natural defenses to work more easily.

 

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Dr. Bach system is complete because it treats emotions and not the triggers that cause them. It is not just for today, yesterday and tomorrow, but for all the time.

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Dr. Bach placed the 38 flower remedies into 7 groups.

  • For Fear: Rock Rose, Mimulus, Cherry Plum, Aspen, Red Chestnut
  • For Uncertainty: Cerato, Scleranthus, Gentian, Gorse, Hornbeam, Wild Oat
  • For Insufficient Interest in Present Circumstances: Clematis, Honeysuckle, Wild Rose, Olive, White Chestnut, Mustard, Chestnut Bud
  • For Loneliness: Water Violet, Impatiens, Heather
  • For those Over-Sensitive to influences and ideas: Agrimony, Centaury, Walnut, Holly
  • For Despondency or despair: Larch, Pine, Elm, Sweet Chestnut, Star of Bethlehem, Willow, Oak, Crab Apple
  • For Over-Care for Welfare of Others: Chicory, Vervain, Vine, Beech, Rock Water

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The remedies are explained by describing the emotion or personality trait for which they are needed, but of course, there is a positive side to all of them.

It is emphasized throughout the Bach Remedy literature that the treatment is based on personality, and so whatever the problem might be, the remedies should be selected according to the emotional outlook, the mood, temperament and personality of the individual concerned.

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Dr. Bach strongly believed that physical ill health was a result of disequilibrium within our minds and that it was therefore of utmost importance to treat the mind in order to bring about healing of the sick body. Indeed, there are many instances where this philosophy is well established and accepted within medicine generally. Tension, anxiety, worry and so on, all have the potential to create a variety of physical problems, manifesting in different ways.

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There are however, certain conditions which do not have a definite emotional cause. And there are some conditions which are purely organic and although the Bach Flower therapy remedies have an important role to play in re-establishing the person’s overall well-being, a more conventional, orthodox approach may be essential. In these cases, the remedies cannot take the place of vital treatment when it is needed and it should always be sought if there is any doubt or cause for concern about your physical health.

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However, whatever the problem, there is no doubt that worry, fear, depression, self-pity and other negative emotions which so often accompany ill-health, hinder our recovery and retard convalescence. But because the remedies treat these negative feelings, with their help our inner strength can be revived and this will aid our recovery and return to health.

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There are remedies to help us if we lose our way, or find ourselves turning back, or if we are uncertain and feel afraid about taking the next step.

Life is full of challenges – pleasant as well as unpleasant – but whatever it is that presents a stumbling block in our lives, it is there for a purpose, to help us learn about life and give us experience.

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There is something for us to understand from all experiences, good and bad, and always something to gain, for no matter how negative a situation might seem, there is always a positive aspect to consider.

Having endured the suffering, whatever it might be, it is then up to us to take head of these warning signs should they ever return, and correct the imbalances before it has a chance to make us feel unwell again. And that is our lesson. The Bach Flower therapy remedies are there to help and guide us, but true progress – our real healing – comes from within.

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Bach Flower therapy remedies is a complete system of healing prepared from wild plants, flowers and trees of the countryside. Using them, you will be able to start discovering more of yourself, more about the power of nature as a therapy and heal yourself and others around you.

What will you be exploring from Dr. Bach Flower Therapy Remedies?

 

Life Advice from The Signature of All Things – Part II

“Beatrix instructed Prudence that she must never say back and forth, when backwards and forwards was so much more refined. The word fancy in any context sounded crude, as did the word folks. When one wrote a letter at White Acre, it went sent in the post, not the mailA person did not fall sick; a person fell ill. One was not partly there; one was nearly there. One did not stove along; one hurried along. And one did not talk in this family; one conversed.”

“Shyness is simply another species of vanity. Banish it.”

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“I also wish to speak to you, Prudence, about Mr. Edward Porter’s behavior this evening at the dinning table. You should not have let that man stare at you for quite so long as you did. Engrossment of this sort is demeaning to all. You mustdailyweeklyfavorites.com learn how to abort this sort of behavior in men by speaking to them with intelligence and firmness about serious topics. It is not sufficient to be merely good, you must also become clever. As a woman, of course, you will always have a heightened moral awareness over men, but if you do not sharpen your wits in defense of yourself, your morality will serve you little good.”

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How to say thank you:

“I offer you my unfeigned thanks for your encouragement. Unfortunately, my thanks are the only compensation I can make at the moment, but they are sincere.”

“Wild creatures belong in wild places.”

“Don’t go too far with the cleaning. A little neglect can be of benefit. Have you ever noticed how the most splendid lilacs, for instance, are the ones that grow up alongside derelict barns and abandoned shacks ? Sometimes beauty needs a bit of ignoring, to properly come into being.”

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“If you ask me what I believe, I shall tell you this: the whole sphere of air that surrounds us is alive with invisible attractions – electric, magnetic, fiery and thoughtful. There is a universal sympathy all around us. There is hidden means of knowing. When we cease all argument and debate – both internal and external – our true questions can be heard and answered. That is the powerful mover. That is the book of nature, written neither in Greek nor in Latin. That is the gathering of magic, and it is a gathering that, I have always believed and wished, can be shared.”

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Life Advice from The Signature of All Things – Part I

“The Signature of All Things” was written by Elizabeth Gilbert, the author of “Big Magic” a couple of years ago and I recently finished reading it, having had a wonderful experience with it and I would like to share with you the life advice learned through it.

“If one wanted to continue living and if one wanted to ultimately prosper, then anything that can be learned, should be learned.”

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“Do not be bold. You can butcher the sheep only once. But if are careful, you can shear the sheep every year.”

“Henry had no idea what the man was talking about, but he stayed silent. He had learned in the past 4 years to speak only when he knew that which he was speaking about. Moreover, he had learned that silence can sometimes relax a listener into thinking that one might be intelligent.”

“Be tight with your money. The less you indulge yourself now, the more you can indulge yourself in the future, when you have made your fortune.”

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“The only accurate word for their union was a Dutch word, a business word: partenrederji – a partnership based on honest trade and plain dealing, where tomorrow’s profits are a result of today’s promises and where the cooperation of both parties equally contributes to prosperity.”

“The basis of every one of Henry Whittaker’s calculations was I shall win!, and invariably he did win.”

“A parent is inexcusable who does not personally teach her child to think.”

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“Good behavior should be expected, not rewarded.”

“The world is a fool who longs to be tricked. There is a mighty gap between the idiots and the clever and one must come down on the side of cleverness. To show a longing for anything that one cannot have, for instance, is not a clever position.”

“Not everything has an answer.”

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“Beauty is not required. Beauty is accuracy’s distraction.”

“Any child who was old enough to walk, speak, and reason ought to be able – without any further assistance – to comfort herself.”

“The more money one has, the better people’s manner become. It is a notable fact.”

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The mind blowing nature therapy

I recently had a read through the book called “The Signature of all Things” by the lovely Elizabeth Gilbert, the author of “Eat, pray, love” and most recent book named “The Big Magic” (on which I wish to get my hands on asap!) and here are some excerpts to help you shape more into your mind and spirit the health benefits of various plants and herbs.

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“Jacob Boehme (…) who had mystical visions about plants was (…) an early botanist (…) and believed in something he called

– namely, that God had hidden clues for humanity’s betterment inside the design of every flower, leaf, fruit, and tree on earth. All the natural world was a divine code, Boehme claimed, containing proof of our Creator’s love. This is why so many medicinal plants resembled the diseases they were meant to cure, or the organs they were able to treat.

Basil, with its liver-shaped leaves, is the obvious ministration for ailments of the liver.

Walnuts, shaped like brains, are helpful for headaches. And so on, ad infinitum.”

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“God had pressed Himself into the world, and had left marks there for us to discover.”

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If you love anything enough, it will eventually show you its secrets.