Birthday colors

A couple of years ago, I stumbled upon a website called Colostrology. Which no longer exists, but it was transformed into a book. Colostrology or your birthday color combines astrology with intuitive wisdom and the power of the color to create a personal color for each day of the month of the year.

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“There is a world of possibility contained in each day of birth. There are strengths and weaknesses and gifts and challenges. You have a sun sign and a ruling planet, and you belong to a particular element – fire, earth, air or water. Your birthday carries a numerological vibration that has a specific meaning. Each of these components shapes your personality and life experiences, and when combined, they create the personal colors on which Colostrology is based.” There are 365 personal colors. When the original website was still up, you only needed to search for your date of birth and see the color picked up for you. It may not be a color that you like, but it was designed to help you add it to your environment to help bring out the essence and meaning of you more into the world.

There are also monthly colors. The following are words taken from the book. This will determine you purchase it as you need to know exactly what does it say on your exact date of birth.

I have put it together with the names of colors, shade names from my previous article about the correct names of colors, in an attempt to see if they can be called differently. Some of them have slight differences, the shade is either too dark or too light, some, like caramel, I cannot find what to compare it with. Enjoy!

Caramel

January Color – Caramel – Practical, Determined, Builder 

The color for the month of January is Caramel. Logical and sure-footed, this is a color of substance and determination. After the exuberance of December, we are met with the practical and down-to-earth month of January. The earth tones in Caramel help us feel stable and responsible. This color encourages us to ground our earthly ambitions through discipline and persistence.

Sheer lilac

 

February – Sheer Lilac – Uplifting, Progressive, Detached

The color for the month of February is Sheer Lilac. Inspiring and imaginative, this color invokes the qualities of humanity and kindness. Sheer Lilac helps us comprehend the spirit of humankind and allows us to experience our friends and the people in our community as family. Use this color when emotionally entangled, for it can help you practice and understand detachment.

Fair Aqua

March – Fair Aqua – Intuitive, Subtle, Empathetic 

The color of the month of March is Fair Aqua. Dreamy and illusive, this color helps guide people between the conscious and subconscious worlds. Fair Aqua evokes the qualities of trust and clarity. Neptune, god of the oceans, presides over the month of March.

Cayenne

April – Cayenne – Fiery, Energetic, Courageous 

The color for the month of April is Cayenne. Fiery and energetic, this color signifies passion, strength, and courage. Mars, the ruling planet of Aries, governs the heavens during the month of April. We have just entered the spring season, during which there is a promise of growth and plenty, and everything is new and popping with excitement. This is a time for new beginnings and initiating action.

Bud Green

May – Bud green – Healing, Rejuvenating, Prosperous 

The color for the month of May is Bud Green. Vital and assuring, this is the color of stability and healing. Bud Green opens the heart and rejuvenates the spirit. The sun moves through the earth sign of Taurus during the month of May. This earthy quality is prevalent as the color green springs into action after the bleakness of winter and graces us with its presence. Bud Green gives us a balance of strength and substance.

Aspen Gold

June – Aspen Gold – Radiant, Intellectually Energizing, Uplifting 

The color of the month June is Aspen Gold. Energizing and activating, this is a color filled with radiance and light. Aspen Gold has the ability to lift out spirits and bring sunshine into our lives. Mercury, the planet of communication, moves through the heavens during the month of June. Yellow is known for stimulating the brain and increasing intelligence and mental agility.

Coral Blush

July – Coral Blush – Soothing, Receptive, Nurturing 

The color for the month of July is Coral Blush. Gentle and soothing, Coral Blush inspires love and receptivity. The moon rules the skies during the month of July and just as the moon goes through its phases and cycles, so do we. The silver in this color signifies the value of change, reflection and receptivity, and the pink represents love and tenderness. Together they make a color that can be used in times of change or transition and as an aid for emotional healing.

Sun Orange

August – Sun Orange – Regal, Inspiring, Powerful 

The color of the month of August is Sun Orange. Grand and royal, this is a color that resonates with power and greatness. Gold signifies both spiritual and material wealth. During the month of August the sun moves through the majestic sign of Leo, the sign that rules royalty. The brightness of this color dispels darkness and is especially helpful when you feel the need to protect yourself. It also assists in aligning you with riches, monetary support, and your position in life.

Baja Blue

September –  Baja Blue – Divine, Discerning, Artistic

The color for the month of September is Baja Blue. This is a divine and alluring color that resonates with beauty, purity and wisdom. Mercury and then Venus move through the heavens during the month of September. This is a time when our thinking and our appreciation of beauty is heightened. Baja Blue increases our breadth of scope. It can help ease tension and promote tranquility. This color opens the mind to higher concepts and a less limiting point of view.

Cerulean

October – Cerulean – Peaceful, Poised, Balanced 

The color for October is Cerulean. Calm and soothing, Cerulean signifies love, beauty and balance. Cerulean embodies the essence of peace and serenity while inspiring us to be strong and take decisive action. Venus, the planet that rules the month of October, governs love and beauty. This is a great month to enhance your physical appearance or beautify your surroundings.

Claret Red

November – Claret Red – Intense, Passionate, Transforming 

The color for the month of November is Claret Red. Intense and passionate, this color inspired depth, strength, and love. People during this month can see beyond the mundane and into the heart of others. This is a great color to use when integrating perception with a more lighthearted detachment. Claret Red helps you stay inspired as you build your dreams and ambitions.

Pagoda Blue

December – Pagoda Blue – Wisdom, Truth, Vision

The color for December is Pagoda Blue. Deep and meditative, this color signifies wisdom, truth and optimism. Pagoda Blue gives vision and trust to those who wear it. It is a great color to use while traveling or exploring. The color is a useful aid in dealing with others who have alternative points of view.

Do you have a different opinion as to which color could be the shade from the color thesaurus created by Ingrid Sundberg?

If you wish to purchase the Colostrology book from Amazon, click here

Happy Colorful Birthday! 

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Big Ideas simply explained

How the mind makes use of information gathered from the external world has been a major concern for philosophers and psychologists throughout history. Exactly how do we use the information gained through our senses? In the early 1970s cognitive and mathematical psychologist Roger Shepard proposes new theories of how the brain processes “sense data”. Shepard argued that our brains not only process sense data, but also make inferences from it, based on an internal model of the physical world where we can visualize objects in 3D. The experiment he used to prove this, in which subjects tried to ascertain whether 2 tables – each drawn from a different angle – were the same, showed that we are able to perform what Shepard called “mental rotation”: turning one of the tables in our mind’s eye for comparison. Perception, Shepard said, is “externally guided hallucination” and he described the processes of dreaming and hallucination as “internally simulated perception.”

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Until very recently, our perception of risk and the way that we make our decisions was considered to be more a matter of probability and statistics than psychology. When faced with uncertainty, people base their decisions on “rule of thumb” – on specific examples or small samples. Consequently, judgments can frequently be wrong, as they are based on information that comes easily to mind, rather than that has actual probability. We tend to overestimate the likelihood of things with low probability (such as a plane crash) and underestimate those with a higher probability (such as crashing while drink driving).

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What does all this mean?

First of all, perception is the main ingredient we require to gather the information and either make decisions or negotiate. We need specific tools to make sure our minds do not wander on different places than the correct path. In order for us to make better decisions, to negotiate, to understand how to handle different type of information, Mapology Guides have come up with new brain maps, brain tools to help us cope with the difficult task of making decisions and negotiating, which are the main activities of our day to day lives.

If you remember last year, I have written a blog post here, on one of their creative brain tools maps, What’s bugging you. 

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Because we are constantly on the lookout for causal connections, let’s use specific tools that will improve our cognitive journeys and enhance our positive marks into the practical world. The way we perceive the environment therefore can be guided. So let’s use something unique, creative and positive to do that.

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Cover letter of UK Expats’ 1st interview

My first interview in the UK as an expat was due to the below cover letter. I hope you find some inspiration and motivation and self-confidence in your own worth.

To whom it may concern,

 As my resume details it, I have nearly 3 years’ worth of experience in designing learning content along with training materials and delivery of training, and I have gained it through my own personal freelancer project Map Your Future. I decided to do this, because after graduating in my country, I could only find jobs that would not suit my desire of working in the field of Psychology and Development, which I have studied. I am a serious, creative and open minded human being and I feel comfortable with teams and with fast paced projects, as I have worked in these types of working environments in admin, call centers and translating departments, that is why I know I am qualified to offer my knowledge, my skills, my ideas and my vision to your company.

Having worked in so many different type of activities, I have gained a skill that is not only helpful in the future, but also, in my opinion, vital to keep up with the fast forward moving society and technology and the need of alternate jobs to the different sort of needs for the society. That skill is called fast learning and adaptability and I am the happy owner of it. I like to read a lot, and create different contents for my blog, and through this, I am continuously learning and improving my skills, my knowledge and mostly my attitude.

I have decided to come to Belfast because I want to thrive in an environment where I can work with what I like, what I know to do and what can be of help to others. I feel like Belfast is a multicultural small city and after finding your announcement regarding the eLearning Designer position, I felt like this is the job I want. And it is!

I would like to also highlight the fact that I am interested in Psychology (which I have studied and continue to read on it), English, Education, Business Development, Marketing and Communications, and combining all my major interests in one job, a job that would require critical thinking, creative writing and synthesizing all that information into new learning materials, designing and explaining the concepts, then, you have definitely found the one to fill in the eLearning Designer position. Choose me, as I am very motivated in these areas and I would be very pleased to collaborate with you.

Finally, in all my previous work experiences, I had the chance of different challenges, career advancement and discovery, however, I know that nothing can be compared to working with what you are good at and what you love to do. I believe you will also thrive with what I can create and design for you, because I am very committed to my work and since I am a very creative person, I do not like to create “things” of which I am not proud of, or of which I do not feel it represents me. I strive for excellency. When I create, design, think, adapt and make something, I always see it as an expression of myself. And I like to offer something meaningful, helpful and enjoyable.

Please feel free to contact me for an interview, either by phone at ————— or by email at ———————- and you can meet me and discuss further.

Thank you for your time and your consideration,

Best regards,

Georgyana

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We cannot bloom when it’s dark

I am fighting the forces that try to down me. These forces are sometimes invisible because they are subtle. They come from lots of things that we deal with on a daily basis. These are forces of the world. Of the society we live in. These are compromises that try to collide us into deals we do not want to do, but capture our souls with some incentives we believe we need. We are made wishful for things we do not require. We are made believe that we are less than what we truly are.

We are like opened flowers in the dark hoping the dawn is soon to finally live. But we die in the dark. We are flowers. We cannot bloom in the dark. 

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You are fighting with your ego. With your self. With your spirit. Your mind is not letting you see the scream your heart is trying to pull out to force you to see a different type of force that needs your attention and your enslavement. You are a slave of this empty world of persons that are not real. You are a slave of your mind. When you should be enslaved only to your own self. And maybe you do not like the word “slave”. But how else can you call someone that denies oneself a happy tranquil life doing what one enjoys and what one experiences flow state with? How can you name someone that gives their time to something that has lost its meaning, its purpose, its joy, its fun? Is it not a prison? Like a cage we set ourselves up to willingly, believing that if it’s nicely adorned we are going to be happy inside. In the box of our own minds and brains. In the dark. We can never be free when we are safe inside. Locked away from the feelings of letting oneself surrender to life, to its powers, to its TRUE REAL forces that would only lead us to our enlightenment.

We are fighting with each other instead of fighting against the ego we hold on in our hearts, draining our energies to pursue our vocations, our passions, our love for life. We fight with our hearts to go to a place we do not belong, with the delusion that if we go there, we will eventually belong…somewhere. We fight each other because some of us do have the courage to stand up for others. And we fight those people that try to set us free from our own enslavement and our own blindness to the reality we each make for ourselves as we tolerate it for us to exist. We tolerate our lives in certain ways because we have not experienced any new ways, any better ways. We fight, we struggle, we hustle and we believe that this is how life should be. This is what we were born for. To hustle. To fight. To demand. To go for it.

But I fight with myself daily to not lose my perspective. I fight with my own mind and heart and spirit and character to not fight with the wrong army or against a friend disguised by others into an enemy. But I fight to fight the fight.

We fight. We fight. We fight. To stay alive and colorful and vibrant and happy in the cold dark. But we won’t bloom in anymore than what we managed to do so, up until the dark came over us.

The darkness keeps us all separated. Afraid of who is there. Vigilant to fight someone or something. We don’t know. It’s too dark to see. We need to strike back. We need to fight…

we cannot bloom in the dark

I wonder if this continuous war in the world is not actually an expression of the war that struggles to come to a peace inside ourselves, between our own forces. The forces of our minds, of our souls and of our spirits. Of our sense to do justice. To not have not had justice. To not have been made wrong by something or someone, or even by our own voices.

I wonder how this jungle can be tamed. How can we even learn tranquility if the environment we live in, is never at peace? How can we demand of ourselves to be at peace and calm and present when we are surrounded with hate, with wars, with struggles, with injustice and with the stress that comes from all that? How can we ask of ourselves to live in the present, to be in the now, when we do not like the present? How can we judge ourselves for wanting to escape reality because it is too harsh, it is injustice, it is not fair at all? How can we blame other people for doing this, when we contribute through our indifference and ignorance of the world situation, to that environment?

we cannot bloom in the darkWhy can’t we see that we are all enslaved to this war zone and we perpetuate it by ignoring to fight it? We fight, but we actually fight to hide. To hide from the truth and to hide the truth because we are afraid of what it might do to us if we reveal it to ourselves even and to others as well. We would really need to fight at that point.

But I still fight. Silently. Until it cannot stay inside this fight and it will show on the outside.

I fight.

 

How to think like Sherlock Holmes

“Holmes was a detective second to none, it is true. But his insights into the human mind rival his greatest feats of criminal justice. What Sherlock Holmes offers isn’t just a way of solving crimes. It is an entire way of thinking, a mindset … a model for thinking, a way of being.” (Maria Konnikova)

how to think like sherlock holmes mindsetWhy it is important to learn to think like Sherlock Holmes?

The world we live is in binding us to become totally disconnected not just from our own selves, but from the people and from the way we treat the information we come across. We are mindless. We let out minds drift away, we cannot pay attention anymore and we are attractive the multi tasking forces in order to keep up. But, is this the answer? In recent years, studies have shown that meditation like thought for as little as 15 minutes a day, can shift bran states, and that looking at scenes of nature, for even a short while, can help us become more insightful, more creative and more productive. We also know that our brains are not built for multi tasking. When we are made to do multiple things at once, not only do we perform worse on all of them, but our memory decreases and our general well being suffers a lot. We live on, blindly unaware of how much we are missing, of how little we grasp of our own thought process and how much better we could be if only we would have taken the time to understand and to reflect. But it is not that we are not capable of doing so, it’s just that we do not choose to do it anymore.

“Think back to your childhood. Chances are, if I asked you to tell me about the street you grew up, you would be able to recall any number of details. The color of the houses. The quirks of the neighbors. The smells of the seasons. How different the street was at different times of day. Where you played. Where you walked. Where you were afraid of walking. I bet you could go on for hours. As children, we are remarkably aware. We absorb and process information at a speed that we will never again come close to achieving. New sights, new sounds, new smells, new people, new emotions, new experiences: we are learning about our world and its possibilities. Everything is new, everything is exciting, everything engenders curiosity. And because of the inherent newness of our surroundings, we are exquisitely alert, we are absorbed, we take it all in. And what’s more, we remember: because we are motivated and engaged, we not only take the world in more fully than we are ever likely to do it again, but we store it for the future. But as we grow older … we think: been there, done that, don’t need to pay attention to this, and when in the world, will I ever need to know or use that? Before we know it, we have shed that innate attentiveness, engagement and curiosity for a host of passive, mindless habits.

Ask yourself:

  • How many thoughts float in and out of your head without your stopping to identify them ?
  • How many ideas and insights have escaped because you forgot to pay attention ?
  • How many decisions or judgements have you made without realizing how or why you made them, driven by some internal default settings of whose existence you’re only vaguely, if at all, aware ?
  • How many days have gone by where you suddenly wonder what exactly you did and how you got to where you are ? We’ll take Holmes’s  methodology to explore and explain the steps necessary for building up habits of thought that will allow you to engage mindfully with yourself and your world as a matter of course. ” (Anna Konnikova)

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Here are 10 ways on how to think like Sherlock Holmes: 

1. Use your mind to scrutinize everything you encounter, an idea, an information, a knowledge, a gossip. One of the things that characterized Sherlock Holmes’s thinking was a natural skepticism and inquisitiveness toward the world. The truth is our minds are preset to accept everything they are given. First we believe and only after that we question.Reboot your mind and avoid assuming anything is the way it is. Think of everything by adding a healthy dose of skepticism. 2. Understand your brain’s bias and use it to be more organized in your thoughts and clear about the world. “Our minds love nothing more than jumping to conclusions.” The Affect Heuristic – how we feel is how we think. A happy and relaxed state of mind receives easily a certain information, it is influenced in the direction that the speaker wants you to be influenced to . The Availability Heuristic – we use what is available to the mind at any given point in time. As an example, when we meet a stranger, we immediately draw a impression on him/her based on our past experiences (including clothes, body language, appearance and language) and patterns of our mind on creating judgement along with the state of being in that specific day. We won’t be able to control every piece of information that our brains retain. But we can decide on which information we pay more attention based on the misconception perceptions that our minds work on.  3. Pursue your brain into going from the passive state of mind into the active state of it. What has influenced my first impression ? And consequently, has that first impression in turn influenced others ? The message is simple: never forget that an initial impression is only that, and take a moment to reflect on what caused it, and what that may signify for your overall aim. 4. Observation – knowing what and how to observe. This is why at this stage, we need the other 3 steps. Direct your observation in compliance with your scrutiny process, with your understanding of being active and skeptical not just about the world, but about your own mind too. What details do you focus on? What details do you omit ? And how do you take in and capture those details that you choose to zoom in on ? You don’t just take into your brain all details, you take it as organized and as clearly as possible. When you will need that information, you need to know how to search it. Choosing wisely means being selective. It means looking with the full knowledge that what you note – and how you note it – will form the basis of any future deductions you might make. 5. Filter the information you have, everything that you receive through the use of the above steps. Don’t let your lazy wandering default state of mind to think for you, as this is another bias of our brains. We need to tell our brains what and how to filter the data it receives from the world. How ? Read the next steps: 6. Be selective. We want to learn to pay attention better, to become superior observers, but we can’t hope to achieve this if we pay attention to everything. Quantity versus Quality. What we need to do is allocate our attention mindfully. Allocate your attention strategically, notice everything that it is important to the situation you are serving. Make the most of your limited resources, especially your attention. 7.Be objective. Understanding a situation in its fullness requires several steps, but the first and the fundamental rule is to realize that observation and deduction are not the same. Learn to separate the situation from interpretation, yourself (your thoughts, your emotions, from what you are seeing. Don’t jump to making a judgement immediately after observing. 8. Be inclusive. When we are being inclusive, we never forget that all of our senses are constantly in play. We don’t let them drive our emotions and decisions. Instead, we actively enlist their help and learn to control them. For instance, a smell (the olfactory senses are very powerful triggers of memory and emotions) may let you make a deduction based on your previous experience with that particular smell, affecting the judgement of the situation you encounter. Likewise,when we touch something cold or warm, we may become more cold or more warm in our disposition. If we are touched by someone in a reassuring way, we may suddenly find ourselves taking more risks or being more confident than we otherwise would. When we hold something heavy, we are more likely to judge something (or someone) to be weightier and more serious. None of this has anything to do with observation and attention per se, except that it can throw us off a carefully cultivated path without our awareness. The environment may influence us, we need to pay attention to it and never assume anything. 9. Be engaged. Your mind needs to be active, involved in what’s doing. When we are engaged in what we are doing, we persist longer at difficult problems, we experience the flow as mentioned in a previous article here, we become more motivated, we even become LESS likely to commit some of the most fundamental errors of observation such as mistaking a person’s outward appearance for factual detail of his/her personality. When you feel strong personal engagement with something, you will feel it is worth that extra push. 10. Imagination is the essential next step of the thought process. It uses the building blocks of all the observations that you’ve collected to create the material that can then serve as a solid base for future deductions. Imagination must come from a basis in real, hard knowledge, and it is a setup for deduction. The imagination, the creation is grounded in reality, everything that you have stored in your memory so far out of the consistent, detailed observations you have made.And bare in mind that in order to think more like Sherlock Holmes, you should deduce only from what you’ve observed and nothing more.The imagination process is helpful to bring you to the deduction process. Without imagination we would never be able to reach the heights of thought that we are capable of; we would find it difficult to use the facts we have in any way that would improve our judgement and decision making. Imagination allows us to see things that aren’t so. It lets us see what might have been and what might be even in the absence of firm evidence. When all of the details are in front of you, how do you re-arrange it ? How do you know which is important? Much of imagination is about making connections that are not entirely obvious, between elements that at first seem disparate.

Following Sherlock Holmes’s 10 steps to a more mindfulness state of being, we are less prone to stress, to making errors in our thinking process leading us to misconceptions, misjudgments and especially to mindless actions and behaviors

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Which of the 10 ways to how to think like Sherlock Holmes have you experienced so far?

31 mistakes I made in 31 years

1.Denying life as it happens, not accepting whatever you are being given by the universe to learn, refusing to cope with the situations you are put into to grow. 2.Not acknowledging the fact that tomorrow is another day. Not staying strong when things go wrong and not having patience for the miracle to happen, the next day. 3. Believing I will be skinny for as long as I live and not investing in going to the gym especially, starting going to the gym when young to make a habit out of it. 4. Not understanding the true value of health which is the most precious bank account you need to save up for. 5. Not reading more the following phrase: “You become what you do most with/of your time.” and not acting on it. 6. Not having fun as much as I should have had when at Uni and high-school. Picking the day and enjoying it as it is. This is connected to number 1.

31 mistakes I made in 31 years

7. My eyebrows were unique. Destroying them at around 15 years old instead of letting them grow as wild as they were. Believing I need to be like someone in particular to be liked. Figuring it out too late that I need to embrace myself. I am unique. Even now, with the way my eyebrows have developed and have grown out of the trauma I put them through, they are mine. They are me. I am unique. And You are unique, along with everything that makes you unique and makes you to be YOU. 8. Not taking up the chances that came my way because I was afraid I would mess it up and make mistakes. When opportunities come along, you have to grab them. They do not come twice in a lifetime.

31 mistakes I made in 31 years

9. Not reading more when younger when time was infinite and long and enough for everything. Because you will learn and understand with time, that, what you practice in private will be highly rewarded in public. Everything you read and learn and discover through reading will help you forever.

31 mistakes I made in 31 years

10. Not enjoying myself more with friends and going out with them. Life is a gift and as Tony Robbins pinpoints it out: “it offers us the privilege, opportunity, and responsibility to give something back by becoming more.”

31 mistakes I made in 31 years

11. Believing of myself to not be enough to do x and z. When I was younger I could not focus on where I wanted to go, rather too much on what I feared it would happen if I would choose a specific path. Beliefs have the power to create but also to destroy. Learn to not dis-empower yourself up.

31 mistakes I made in 31 years

12. Forcing myself to a job I hated. Because we all get what we tolerate. If I accept something harmful for myself in any way (being killing my own soul and energy with that job and draining myself of it instead of using it for what I truly wish to pursue), then I have chosen that I deserve that because again, I am fearful of what might happen if I do not follow what everyone else believes it is right for me because themselves are afraid of pursuing a different road. Connected to number 11.

31 mistakes I made in 31 years

13. Not following my passions, hobbies and talents. I have learned from this to decide I will find a way, no matter what. Better to regret what you have done, than what you have not. As in that Robbie Williams’ song “No Regrets“.

31 mistakes I made in 31 years

14. Being lazy in the mornings. Then I read something from Tony Robbins that goes like this: “People are not lazy, they simply have impotent goals, goals that do not inspire them.” I would go further and add that, again it is connected to fear, fear that I cannot dream of more, because I tolerate specific things to myself or I do not tolerate it.

31 mistakes I made in 31 years

15. Using dangerous aluminium based ingredients antiperspirant.  16. Believing what my hairdressers told me about my hair because that’s what they have learned at their school and that’s what they think everyone should wear their hair like based on some labels for hair types. Do not label yourself or anything that has to do with you. Rely on your intuitions.

31 mistakes I made in 31 years

17. Not trusting more my judgement. Not having self confidence. Not trusting my own decisions. Learn to be more independent. Not relying more often on my intuition. 18. Being too cautious not to make mistakes. 19. Not visiting more my grandparents after growing up.  20. Not taking up the classes I was interested in: graphology, positive psychology, music therapy, more new foreign languages. If you do what you have always done, you will get the same results you have always obtained. To me, not pursuing something new or different or totally unexpected was translated to an attitude of letting it go, of if I try again, it will work. You need to try again but with something else or using a different method. Otherwise you’re like the mad that expects to find something new even though he only tries the same thing. You already know that your attitude will determine whether you will fail or succeed. 21. Believing that I do not deserve certain things because I have not done something in particular for that thing. We should not try to be perfect. We need to be excellent examples of being humans. For that, we all deserve the best.

31 mistakes I made in 31 years

22. Thinking that I am way too old for a specific thing to do.  23. Not sharing more often my emotions and feelings. Believing I would be taken for weak or sentimental, or emotional or another dis-empowering belief like that.  24. Day dreaming too much and too little action. I mean, I do not believe in miracles, I rely on them. But even when relying, we need to act upon. Plan, execute, enjoy.

Unicorn fairy tale day dreaming too much

25. Giving up Public Speaking Toastmasters Club.  26. Doubting myself for the choices I have made. Believing that no one cares anyway. Doubting that anyone actually cares. This triggers inconsistency in your actions. Or, it did, in my case, anyway. Learn from that!

31 mistakes I made in 31 years

27. Saying too much “No” to life.  Saying “I do not know”. Being unwilling to do more. Being fine with receiving less than what I could and have deserved to receive. Not fighting for what I deserve. Not saying YES to myself. Yes, I deserve this, Yes, I can do this, Yes, I want this now. Yes, I will do this. Yes, I can. MORE of YES to also become, more positive. 28. Throwing away stuff on the spur of the moment and regretting it afterwards. “No regrets?”. A lot of those in this case. 29. Buying items that I will never wear or impulse purchases. Being a consumerist. A consumerist is not free. He or she is attached to the idea of showcasing their personalities through their stuff. They do not know who they are without that pile of stuff. Stop making these type of purchases. They loose you money and your self-esteem and self-confidence that you are more than your items, things or stuff that you buy.

30. Stressing myself out over things I cannot control at all.

31. Probably the most important mistake, from which I have learned a lot was being inconsistent with whatever thing I would decide to pursue. Because life’s greatest rewards are reserved for those who demonstrate a never ending commitment to act until they achieve. That’s why persistence and consistency are the main ingredients to a wealthy, healthy and happy life.

And remember, whether making mistakes or not, whether learning from that or not, whether you are with flaws or flawless, the world is more beautiful with you in it!

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6 Neil Gaiman inspirational lessons to take in the 2017 New Year

Make Good Art was a speech that Neil Gaiman delivered for some graduates at an university back in 2012 and it was after that event, that it was put into a very beautifully designed book named Make Good Art that I read and even though its teachings refer to what it needs to be done to accomplish a good art in the arts field, I believe I can twist them and make them be valuable as a inspiration to take on for the 2017 New Year for anything that you wish to accomplish. Or for your New Year’s Resolutions’ tools to help you attain the goals you have set up to.

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First of all, Neil Gaiman says that “When you start a career in the arts you have no idea what you are doing” and that is an awesome aspect because if no one knows then there were no rules set up, and if there are no rules, then no one can tell you that something in particular it’s impossible because no one has went beyond any boundaries, since there were none discussed.

I would put that into whatever career you start, you have no idea where it is going to take you or if it is going to take you anywhere as nowadays every day a new career appears with the emerge of technology, social media and overall the internet. Therefore, even though there are specific rules for each job you take, it does not mean that you cannot innovate and try out things or recommend ideas. Be open to opportunities, but make sure to take those that take you closer to that career you seek. Which can change in the future as much as you change your path through those opportunities you take, that make you grow and thus, change your ideas of your career.

“If you don’t know it’s possible, it’s easier to do.” Neil Gaiman

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The second lesson is that if you know what you want to do, then just go ahead and do it. #justdoit right? Neil Gaiman discussed that in the field of arts it is hard to establish a balance between what you want to achieve and what it is correct to do taking into account that you need to pay debts, rent, food and life in general and at the same time, work on your creative dreams. What the author mentions worked for him was to imagine he was walking towards a mountain that was his dream and if at any point in time, he would be uncertain about what he should do, he would then stop and ask himself if that road it taking him closer to the mountain and taking him away from the destination. That links to the first thing to be open to opportunities but pay attention not to be diverted to someone else’s mountain when taking specific opportunities. This applies to all jobs and all life events, not just in the creative fields.

The third lesson is the one that we encounter in every book, with any motivational or inspirational figures out there, and that relates to dealing with failures, resilience, self-esteem and confidence in what you do that it will work out.

“The problems of failure are problems of discouragement, of hopelessness, of hunger. You want everything to happen and you want it now. And things go wrong.” Neil Gaiman

Neil Gaiman advised us not to do anything just for the money as it will turn out we will not have anything else apart from the experience of the money, usually spent or maybe not received.

He says “nothing I did where the only reason for doing it was the money, was ever worth it”.

There are always problems of success. Sometimes you take on jobs that you not necessarily like, but they pay the bills and you start creating a comfort zone, a lifestyle that you cannot give up because it won’t be able to be paid by what you actually want to work. Neil Gaiman shares the following: “the biggest problem of success is that the world conspires to stop you doing the thing that you do, because you are successful”.

The forth lessons connects with the previous ones, because it is connected to failure. ” I hope you make mistakes” it’s Neil Gaiman’s message. Because it means you have tried and you have learned something from it to take on in the future. It means you have tried what you wanted to try and you will have no regrets.

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“Fifthly, make your art.” Neil Gaiman

Do that thing that you are passionate about and that only you can do. You are unique and your passion will thrive if you put your skills up to work it out. There is no one else in the world like you to do it and have the success that you can have. I want to share with you another paragraph that I found very inspirational and motivational to keep going on and to follow that passion you have:

“The moment that you feel that, just possibly, you’re walking down the street naked, exposing too much of your heart and your mind and what exists on the inside, showing too much of yourself. THAT’S THE MOMENT YOU MAY BE STARTING TO GET IT RIGHT.” Neil Gaiman

Lastly, the sixth lesson to take in the 2017 New Year is that you need to have 2 of the following 3 traits in any passion you follow and in any job you apply for:

  1. Your work is good
  2. You are easy to get along with
  3. You deliver your work on time

2 out of 3 is fine 

because:

  • “People will tolerate how unpleasant you are if your work is good and you deliver it on time.
  • They’ll forgive the lateness of your work if it’s good and if they like you.
  • You do not need to be as good as the others if you’re on time and it’s always a pleasure to hear from you.” Neil Gaiman, Make good art 

At the end of the speech and of the book, because I read the book, Neil Gaiman shares the best advice he had ever received and it was from the Sandman’s book written by Stephen King that says:

“This is really great. You should enjoy it.”

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Enjoy your journey to your destination. Being too much worried will take that joy and that’s ultimately what matters, that you have lived each day consciously. In the present, Now. 

31 lessons I learned in 31 Christmases

1.Your intuition is NEVER confused or unable to show things clearly for you. I discovered my mom in the kitchen when I was around 8 years old and I saw her packing some Kinder Surprise Eggs which myself and my brother would usually get on Christmases and I told her: “You are Santa!”. But I was not sad that there was no Santa. I was fascinated that my assumptions turned out to be true. That takes me to number – 2.You will come to love yourself and you will love everything you are made of, exactly how you are, in terms of your physical, emotional, spiritual body that you were given. You will love your craziness (the good side though*) because that is yours and it makes you special. Maybe that’s the reason a lot of people do not change specific parts of their behavior. They are in love with it. With how that special trait of them turns people to do, make, believe, act or think in a specific way. Just as I am ALWAYS fascinated to discover that EVERYTHING I have an intuition about delivers that outcome. It is surprising to find out about yourself that you are more intelligent than you or others around you imagined you would be (especially if you are known as an introvert). – 3.If you are not very attractive while growing up according to media’s or society’s standards, don’t worry, you will make everyone wonder how you turned out to be so beautiful, graceful and elegant in a few years to come. – 4.Whatever number you are enjoying now, on this Christmas, be present, be in the NOW. It will not come back and next year you might regret you have not experienced what you had and what you had received as a gift from the universe. The joy you are given at a specific point in time; that’s there to test you or to teach you something, either in that moment or, if you choose, the next Christmas, and next Christmas, my dear one, it’s sad. – 5.The right shade of red will make you look festive, elegant and alive. It will cheer you up and it will also attract everyone’s eyes on you. – 6.You are a Santa yourself. So, don’t  get upset if you do not get the right present. You messed things up last Christmas too. – 7. Just as you are a Santa to someone or various persons, you are your own Santa as well. Treat yourself with the right gifts. Do not treat yourself with food. You are not a dog. – 8.Visit your grandparents on Christmas at least; it is a tendency we have to forget to do it after we have grown up. You will regret it if you take them for granted. They are not here forever, as much as we would like to fool ourselves of that. – 9.Parents will be parents. They will teach you something new each year. Of how you are supposed to act, of what you should have done, or said. Take that and make sure you pass it on correctly. – 10.Enjoy the cold, the snow, even the rain. If you are ever going to move in a far warmer country, even if you are that type of person that says (like me): “I could live here forever, with never experiencing cold again.” rest assured you will miss the snow, the cold (I have been there), maybe not the rain. That is everywhere. – 11.What you think you can never live without, will turn out to prove you wrong. – 12.You have always been a minimalist, but society fooled you with its “treats”, with its “deals”, with its “sales” or better it deluded you in its prison of temptations. Go deep inside and see what are you actually searching for when wanting a specific “gift”. What do you want to feel? What do you expect to feel? – 13.Christmas is not made up of just THE Christmas tree, gifts, wraps, food and family gossip or movies. It is about the Christmas inside. The warmth. Your soul. The start of a new beginning. Jesus Christ was born. The good. Forgiveness. – 14.Eat less chocolate. Less of everything. – 15.If there is something that you absolutely dislike, you will be forced by the universe to work in that area until you have changed your mind about that or until you have changed the activity. – 16.Do you believe of yourself you are socially active and cannot imagine not being that way or not going out every week end or even daily? Things will change when you have had found THE ONE. – 17.Marriage is a beautiful thing. But it takes 2 to believe that. Choose wisely. – 18.Life might bring you something that you have wished for unexpectedly and it will turn your world upside down. – 19.Something beautiful IS on your way. No, do not believe that, rely on it! – 20.Your teeth are EXTREMELY important. Take very good care of that aspect. – 21.Your taste in music will not change in time. – 22.Your pets will teach you a lot about joy and play. But you will only see that when they are not around you anymore. When you have grown up and moved out. When your pet died. When you are not in their presence for any reason. – 23.You will always act as a daughter/ as a son when at home. Your role in your family will remain exactly as you have grown up or made yourself “famous” for. Be careful how you choose to grow up. – 24.Dreams unfortunately do have an expiry date. That’s because no one likes to enjoy something expired. It’s like that to motivate you to take action now.  – 25.Choose eco, organic, cruelty free, natural as much as you can. It will make THE difference. And societies and companies will learn they need to adapt if they want to still have consumers. Things can change. – 26.Forgive yourself if you have not forgiven someone. It is a necessary step to forgive that person. – 27.Money will come if you are smart with your purchases. Do not waste it on things that do not give you a value. – 28.Be up-to-date with technology. And by technology I also refer to the future of The Online. Which Is The Future. – 29.Do not rely on your 9-5 job unless it’s something you absolutely know for sure you can do it in 10, 20, 30 years time as well. Be prepared or get prepared with other options. It’s up to you to discover those alternatives. – 30.Learn to ask for help. You can do ANY THING, but not everything.  – 31. Remember to smile daily. There are infinite reasons why you should do it and it would be a waste to not do it, especially on Christmases. A very important reason to smile now would be to be grateful for reaching another Christmas in this short lifetime of ours.

 “Merry Christmas! dear heart “

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If you found this helpful, on this Christmas, please share it with your precious ones! 

How to stop procrastinating right now

I believe the reason I procrastinate is that I compare myself to other people, to their achievements and to their lives. Because of that, I instantly feel that what I want to put out there is less important, less creative, less attractive, less helpful or meaningful and enjoyable, which if you have been around for a while, you already know I strive to showcase through these posts.

I procrastinate most of everything that I have a to-do-list for. Exercising. Figuring out what I want to be in life. An organized status of my posts. A blog post. My Instagram account. My social media presence. My reading list.

I never procrastinate on the next New Youtube video from someone I follow. I never procrastinate on chocolate. I never procrastinate on going to work, to the monotonous stressful job as a call center representative. I never procrastinate on stuff that I got accustomed to to do. So then, that leads me to the next thing.

It means I need to start new habits. But then if I am going to do a to-do-list for that, it is obvious what it will end like. I actually do have a #goals for that as well. Therefore, I will simply just do it. I will start letting the universe I have envisioned in my head to create on this blog, flow by itself. Because saying that I have the writer’s block, is another form of procrastination.

“Houston, we have got a problem!” my mind starts anxiously. FEAR.

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Fear that you are making a mistake. Fear that you let too much of yourself seen or read. Fear that you will be judged. Worse: fear that you will not be liked for what you put out there. Fear that you are not meaningful. Fear that you are not enjoyable. Fear that you are not what people look for to read. Fear that you will embarrass yourself. Fear that someone at work might see this. Fear that you will be seen as a weirdo. Fear that you are an open book. Fear that you can get hurt. Fear that you will feel ashamed. Fear that this is useless. Fear that it will not take you anywhere and it is a waste of time, in the end. Fear you will fail. Fear that I will disappoint. Fear that people will see me different after this but in a negative way, and I bet you know what I mean. Fear that I would lose respect. Feel that I am not in control. 

Fear that I will be vulnerable.

But then I believe that all those fears are actually another form of comparing myself with other people’s content and creative expression and their positive feedback. If other content creators, storytellers or creative writers or bloggers that I enjoy going through their writing receive such beautiful responses, and I too, believe they are doing an awesome job, then it means that my thoughts are less whatever I think of others’content because I actually secretly wish my content was as exceptionally creative and wonderfully put into words, poetic and alluring as theirs. I want to be them.

Why do I feel I need to copy someone else’s work that I think of as beautiful?

Because I see in others what I see in myself. Other people are our mirrors. There is a reason behind the saying “Birds of a feather flock together.” Understanding this, I see now that everyone I follow on social media, every book I read and I like, every blog content that I feel unique and different and creative and I love it is actually a part of me.  It is something that was said or done and that was something that I might have done as well or thought as well, if I had that voice online. That’s the whole secret of getting followers. You get what you are.

Numbers. 

I have always had great grades. But it was the quality that got me those grades. I want numbers, but I want it in quality. I am not looking for brand deals, as there are way too little brands I actually buy. I am more of a minimalist. But I do have a lot of thoughts and ideas and words and things to say.

And I fear that what I want to say it is not what people consume these days. I fear failure as everybody does. I fear I might say stuff that it is stupid and that will make people think something about me that I did not even consider when expressing myself. Do not get me wrong, I too consume Youtubers, blogs and online information that is artificial. It’s just shiny on the outside. It has no substance. But I know what I actually consume from that blog. I like the style, the architecture of the blog, the photos, the lights, the colors, the vibes, the mood created, the inspiration. Sometimes even the material stuff: dresses, jewelry, scarves, products, STUFF.

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All that stuff that we like and wish for, is a way we use to display our personalities and ourselves into the world. It is a way of creating our personalities as much as it is constructing our lives and it sometimes clutters it.

If I like that scarf, that ring, that phone, that book, that bike, that skincare brand or that ideology or organic, natural, ecologic, minimalist, then it means I want to associate myself with that to express myself and to create myself. To love myself. As I will be able to say about myself that I am this and that. Which instantly boosts your self esteem and it makes you feel good about yourself.

It makes you feel good about yourself when you portray a certain image you have created in your head you want to like. Based on your idol, based on your favorite youtuber, based on your mother, based on a lifestyle, based on a designer’s piece of clothing. You are all that stuff.

However, I have realized that even though that helps, and it is not necessarily a bad form of pinpointing your mark into the world as long as you do not exaggerate with it and you only live to accumulate things, I find that also this need of social media presence is the same thing. You want to attract numbers, people that like you to highlight what you already know deep down in a way or maybe you don’t. Who knows.

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I will not lie, I dream of big achievements. Because those are the people I follow and enjoy. I want comfort, money, abundance, but I also need and desire health, spiritual enlightenment, personal development and becoming myself that which I want to give you through my posts: become a meaningful, helpful and enjoyable person.

I am already. My ego does not wish to keep to herself. She wishes that I become this worthwhile human being that left a positive mark on the Earth to other human beings. Maybe even to inspire them to become something like that as well.

So, without any other plans, I am releasing my energy into the universe through what I write. I hope to inspire you in some way! And I hope you will be a part of this somehow… I mean this is how I have stopped procrastinating. Thinking too much of a content and a way to put it out there. Just do it. 

That’s my new habit: JUST DO IT!

P.S. Dear Universe: I am open to your opportunities. Bring them on!

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How to appreciate your life

Anxious about work, anxious about home, anxious that I need to figure out who I want to be and who I am, what I like.

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Anxiety can take many forms. It can make you search frantically online for information, it can make you try to collect different things, it can make you analyze things too much, it can make you not stay still, it can get you away from your inner self, it can make you obsessive compulsive with social media and it definitely takes away your tranquility.

It’s like a disease. No, an epidemic lifestyle.

I have a cure. A book. I was reading Pond by Claire Louise Bennett and I experienced a elevated mood rapidly because I got immersed in the style of the writing. It is exquisite. It sets you to stay still and listen to the words whispered through the beautifully written pages. It moves you into its direction: a peaceful, tranquil lifestyle. A love for being in the moment. For living the life you were given. For being curious with everything that it exists.

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It made me so at peace that I really believe it stopped the long train of thoughts I had about all things in my life. If you choose to read it, I believe you too will be mesmerized by the way it makes you accept your life and love it. It will teach you how to appreciate everything you have. Everything you are.

It will be like a warm bath with candles, along a book and lovely flowers that spread their fragrance of life and color and it will haunt you long after you have put it down with its simplicity, yet refined writing style, with its delicacy, yet bold affirmations of life.

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It will absorb your soul with its elegant creative writing and it will quiet your anxiety with its luxurious lush shapely cocktail of words that form a distinct universe in your mind, putting your agitation to do something or look for something to rest. Mental clarity is achieved and the inner turmoil accompanied when you experience anxiety will feel has diminished with the same speed the light travels through time. That’s how Pond will make you travel. In line with life, in line with NOW.  

 

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